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Deng Yudong paused, his expression changed, "For example, Jia's Mansion in "A Dream of Red Mansions", a grand view garden can actually live with all kinds of relatives.
Lin Daiyu is Jia Baoyu's aunt, and Xue Baochai is Jia Baoyu's aunt;
In addition to these two close relatives, there are Xue Baochai's cousin Xue Baoqin, Mrs. Xing's niece Xiuyan, etc., who also lived in the Grand View Garden through various relationships.
However, when Jia's family ransacked the house and fell, these people fell apart and went their separate ways.
Not only in a family, but also in a village. The richer the family, the more appealing to the masses, and the poorer the family, the weaker the manpower. Even weddings and funerals, there are very few neighbors who come to help.
This kind of individual-centered relationship network produces characteristics not only in traditional rural society, but also very common in today's society. "
Chu Lihua's mother's words echoed in her ears, "Don't let us leave at that time, no one will come to help if the house stinks!"
That's right, if the rural areas under this kind of network are not rooted in business and have no appeal to the masses, then the situation that my mother said may really happen.
Are you rich?
Chu Lihua felt that she really couldn't stop pursuing her.
Living in this world, only money and status can support the dignity of the family.
Now let's enrich the practical experience outside, when the time comes
Isn't mother always thinking about the fields at home
Chu Lihua figured it out, and looked at Deng Yudong expectantly again.
Deng Yudong smiled dotingly, and continued, "Let's continue to look at the third layer. What are the characteristics of people living in this kind of network?"
Chu Lihua's eyes lit up, yes, yes, this is what I want.
¡ª¡ª"Here, we can talk about it from the two aspects of 'big' to 'small'. Let's talk about the big aspect first, the commonality of most people's personalities in the entire rural society.
It sounds a bit abstract, so I will explain it with an example of religion.
The source of the formation of the social moral system in many Western countries is religion. Religious teachings tell everyone: All living beings are equal, God loves everyone, God is fair to everyone, and the moral norms and constraints we need to abide by before God are the same All equal, no one is privileged.
However, this is not the case in China¡¯s rural society. There are differences in the moral concepts that Chinese rural society emphasizes. This difference lies in the fact that everyone is ¡°self-centered¡± to judge people and things.
For example, if a person makes a big mistake, but if he is very close to me, then I will try my best to cover him up or help him hide it;
But if this person has almost no intersection with me, then he must face the harshest punishment.
The western moral concept of equality for all is not applicable in China's rural society. The moral norms observed by China's rural society lack universality. Everyone judges the situation with himself as the center. Why are there still many people today who repeatedly emphasize the importance of connections, emphasizing that China is a society of human relationships.
Let me talk about the small aspects, the characteristics of the relationship between husband and wife formed in this network of relationships. There is a very common phenomenon in traditional rural society, that is, the relationship between husband and wife is very indifferent, or even has no emotion at all.
? In the marriage of a man and a woman in rural society, feelings are not the first priority. Reproduction, strengthening the lintel, and expanding the network of contacts are the first choices. This is why we still like to say that we are so close to each other.
Husband and wife together are like partners. Fertility is the biggest additional function of this cooperation, followed by network expansion and so on.
If the cooperation goes well, everyone is safe and sound, but if the cooperation is not smooth, it will be fine if you fight together.
Compared with their spouses, people are more willing to be with people of the same sex who are similar to their own age, chatting, joking, and talking about their parents.
However, in families in Western countries, the relationship between men and women is the primary condition for building a family. As for fertility and connections, these are secondary options.
? Chinese young men and women in rural society are overly reserved about their feelings and are unwilling to express themselves too much;
As people grow older, they will become more silent, and people will often be silent when they reach middle age. This is in great contrast to the openness of expressing love between men and women in Western countries. This characteristic is also in this kind of society. produced in the environment. "
It's no wonder that her mother always said what to do, and Chu Lihua always retorted that her thinking was old-fashioned.
& nbsp; It is only now that I understand that this kind of thinking is a product of the formation of Chinese characteristics.
¡ª¡ª"The last question is, how to keep such a network of relationships running normally?
In order to ensure the normal operation of the relationship network in a "society of acquaintances", it is useless to rely on the laws passed down from the West. The most useful way is to rely on the traditions left by the ancestors and some customary rules.
This kind of rules and traditions have been given a conclusive name, called 'Rules and Order'.
What needs to be emphasized is that the "rule of ritual" is different from the rule of man. "Rule of man" means that one person or a very small number of people have all the social power, and then control it through legal, military and other means. At the extreme point, it is close to our The so-called dictatorship today means that one family dominates.
The rule of ritual is not the case. Simply put, it is to use etiquette to manage the order of daily life and restrain people's behavior.
Why are these established traditions so respected? Because, in the eyes of the villagers, the seemingly fair 'rule of law' is actually not fair at all.
I have seen such a case before. A farmer found out his wife was having an affair with another man, and in a fit of rage he wounded the man.
? According to the current legal provisions at that time, the farmer suspected that his wife was cheating, but there was no detailed evidence, and he injured someone. This behavior was a crime, but his wife and the man were not guilty of any crime.
In this way, the person who has been insulted in vain is the one who is at fault, while the scum who has done bad things in the first place has not been punished in any way.
But if you look at the local etiquette that the villagers respect, it must be the farmers who are right, and it is appropriate to discount their legs.
Therefore, the foothold of the word "ruling by ritual" is on the word "li". If you cheat, you should be beaten, and if you behave badly, you should be punished.
A word we often talk about today is "reasonable and reasonable".
The means of maintaining the rule of courtesy does not lie in the supreme law, but only in one's own conscience. "(Remember this site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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