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After returning with Lanzhi, Chu Lihua plunged into the house, planning to study hard, and then share with her the basis for her change.
Tidy up what I remembered little by little, and turn over the book again for what I didn't remember.
Then, watch the new content again.
What really determines a person's behavior is the goal we want to achieve.
If you want to change yourself, you must recognize your goals. Once the goal is calibrated, you will tense your body and mind like an archer, and let all your actions serve the goal you anchor.
So Adler said, all the time, we have been correcting people's behaviors, or treating them, starting from the behavior itself, simply trying to eliminate the disease; Target.
In Adler's view, what determines our behavior is not past experience, but future goals.
Not a past experience, but a future goal? It is the road traveled and the scenery seen, which can only be the past, good or bad memories.
The way forward requires a lighthouse, and the goal is the lighthouse.
for example. There is a person who often suffers from headaches, but they can't be cured all the time. Using Adler's theory to explain, it is because this person regards the headache as a way to escape the problem, and the purpose of his headache is to get rid of the problem in front of him.
For example, when he has a headache, he doesn't have to go out to meet strangers, and he can also take the opportunity to make some unreasonable demands on his wife or colleagues, "I have such a headache, please help me." and so on.
Therefore, for this man, headaches are simply a fortune, which can satisfy many of his needs. How can he be willing to give up this problem?
So, if the man is not made aware of this, and if he is not allowed to change his purpose, then there is no cure for the headache. At once
Even if he is cured, he will suffer from other diseases, such as insomnia and depression, and continue to use these diseases to achieve his goals.
Chu Lihua admires Adler so much, isn't this just her usual "shield"?
I'm already like this, why do you still
? Pain during menstruation, weakness, vision
Chu Lihua broke out in a cold sweat, everything was her own choice!
Most of my childhood experiences have been forgotten.
However, since I listened to psychology, I have applied the knowledge points in it to myself bit by bit. In the past, it has become clearer and clearer.
It seems that it really brought "annihilation" to itself.
In order to get the compassion of the people around me, so as to get some unexpected care
Chu Lihua was deeply ashamed of her unknown secrets.
If Freud is deterministic, then Adler can be said to be teleological. Because in Adler, every action has its goal and is affected by it.
If you want to change a behavior, you can't treat the head and feet with pain, but start with the purpose of the behavior itself.
And what is the purpose?
Chu Lihua looked up at the ceiling in a daze.
She wants to get more attention, she wants to distance herself from others, and she wants to use this as a gimmick to open up her own road to success
Chu Lihua didn't dare to think about it anymore, isn't this just "selling miserable"? w I was unknowingly being the kind of person I hated the most.
This is not mature, this is
Chu Lihua didn't want to use harsh words to describe herself.
She even began to doubt the original intention of forming the club.
And encourage them to treat the eyes together, if someone does not improve, is it really worrying from the bottom of the heart and wanting him to get better?
Chu Lihua felt that perhaps it was true that she couldn't save her face.
When looking at this bit by bit, Chu Lihua couldn't bear to look at this bloody fact.
Why can't it be done well?
It's just because the purpose deep in the heart is not the purpose in action.
And what about the rescue of pregnant women?
Parody, just for fame? Or to be known.
Even if the belief in success is to be more dazzling than others.
So that mother can really show off.
Chu Lihua was scared, since she lived in such a muddled way for the past thirty years.
Psychology, you can still learn??
Chu Lihua involuntarily sorted out all the information just now in her mind.
From the perspective of Individual Psychology, by creatively interpreting our own life experiences, we can change our minds, get rid of the influence of past experiences on our behavior, and have the possibility of changing ourselves.
After taking the initiative in your own hands, and then by setting goals and making your behavior serve the goals, you can motivate yourself to change your behavior and achieve self-transcendence.
While Chu Lihua was hesitating, there was movement outside.
She quietly went out to take a look, and it was Qing Yunfei who was preparing the ingredients for the next day.
This is such a delicate man.
Is it difficult to choose?
Why did you think of Liu Xingting again at this time?
Subconsciously comparing the two, I couldn't help feeling a little proud in my heart.
Chu Lihua, you really are crazy!
Tiptoing back to her room, Chu Lihua suddenly collapsed and lay down on the ground.
Let's give up psychology and study medicine, otherwise
Chu Lihua was really afraid that she would go mad.
But, but I can't let it go.
She is more yearning for psychotherapy, methods of psychotherapy, so it is really important to learn psychology well.
But now, the most important thing is to go beyond yourself and change your current life that has no real meaning! !
How to realize the meaning of life in the process of self-transcendence?
Chu Lihua felt that she still had to "ask" the master - Adler.
Turn to the place you just looked at again, and then look down.
In Adler's view, whether it is the whole human being or an ordinary individual like you and me, all the difficulties that may be faced in life can be summarized into three questions:
The first is a career issue. Because we each have different divisions of labor, we have to exchange each other's work results to survive;
The second problem is the problem of interpersonal communication. Because everyone lives in the society and must communicate with other people around, whether you like it or not, this is something you have to face;
The third problem is the marriage problem. Because human beings have men and women, we cannot avoid marriage and love in our lives. If human beings are to survive, men and women must be properly combined.
Chu Lihua was amused when she saw it. This summary is really in place, as if it was tailor-made for herself.
Now what I want to improve is these three aspects.
? First of all, in terms of career, it is the premise to support yourself to "do whatever you want"! (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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