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What does that mean?
Chu Lihua felt that she could change her future self to face her former self.
For example, if a child has been poor since he was a child and his childhood was very unhappy, is he destined to be unhappy when he grows up?
In Adler's view, not necessarily, he may also become a very happy person. This child's experience is doomed and cannot be changed, but it is uncertain what experience he can learn from the experience.
He may think, God is too unfair, other people are happy when they are young, but I am so miserable, so if this is the case, why should I care about others? I gave up on myself.
But he may also think, I lived such a hard life when I was a child, and I can¡¯t continue to live like this when I grow up. I want to change my situation so that my children can enjoy a happy childhood.
So Adler said that environmental factors cannot determine our destiny, we can change our own destiny by interpreting our own experience.
He also warned teachers and parents not to say that genetics or experience determine a child's ability, no, what really constrains a person's ability is his own thoughts.
Adler's statement is very exciting, because he does not think that objective factors will determine people's behavior, but gives us a possibility to change ourselves;
It is: You can change your behavior by creatively interpreting your own experience, changing your thinking, and through your own efforts.
Chu Lihua is obviously the first person to think, and now she has to change her behavior through her own efforts.
This is not Adler giving us chicken soup for the soul, but a set of theories that he extracted from his own personal experience.
I've seen it before, Adler's grades were very poor when he first went to school, especially in mathematics, which was very bad, and he felt that he was very untalented.
But his father has always encouraged him, and one day, he completed a problem that the teacher could not do completely, and his confidence increased greatly, completely changed his attitude towards mathematics, and he began to like mathematics. Trying to improve my math scores will naturally improve.
So Adler said in the book, you see, I used my own experience to prove that those who say that ability is innate are simply unreliable.
In fact, this is to refute Freud, because Freud's theory is deterministic, which means that a person's innate factors and past experiences determine his behavior and cannot be changed.
In Adler's view, this is nonsense, and he firmly opposes it. He believes that everyone has the ability to change their behavior through their own efforts, to pursue more outstanding things, and to achieve counterattacks.
So why is his theory called Individual Psychology? It is emphasizing the subjective initiative of each individual.
This actually means that no matter what kind of environment you are in or what kind of experience you have had, it doesn't matter, you have the opportunity to change yourself.
By creatively interpreting your experiences and changing your thoughts, you have the possibility to change your behavior. What should I do after that? Adler also gave you a way, which is to recognize your goals.
In Adler's view, what determines our behavior is not past experience, but future goals.
Why do you say that? Adler used himself as an example again. He said, "If I found a ladder in the classroom and climbed up to the blackboard and couldn't get off it, the students would definitely say, 'Oh! Dr. Adler is crazy!'
But if they know that the purpose of my doing this is to overcome low self-esteem, and only when I sit on the blackboard and look down at the whole class, will I feel tall and secure, then they will not think this is strange, but will I think it's reasonable."
After reading this, Chu Lihua seemed to suddenly understand the importance of dressing appropriately.
Dressing up carefully every day is also the goal of giving yourself a better life.
It's as if every time she wears a particularly expensive dress¡ªfive or six hundred, it seems to her that Qing Yunfei bought it specially for her, and when she walks, Chu Lihua can't help but walk with her head up and her chest out.
In this way, isn't it just increasing self-confidence for no reason?
Chu Lihua immediately took a pen, and seriously added another sentence at the top of the schedule: wash your face, brush your teeth, and dress carefully every day.
Remarks: Discard the "cheap goods" in the closet, even if there are only two replacements, you should buy clothes and shoes that make you feel "expensive" and increase your self-confidence.
Second?, Chu Lihua did just that, and even took Lanzhi out to go shopping and buy clothes. This startled Qing Yunfei.
Pulling Meng Xianxiang back, he asked, "It's said that women are the ones who please themselves. This Chu Lihua is so excited to buy clothes again. Could it be that she plans to go on a date with that Doctor Liu again? It's the first time they went out for dinner, Chu Lihua." Li Hua is really good at dressing up."
Qing Yunfei felt sad when he thought about it. At that time, when he asked her out to watch a movie, Chu Lihua put on inferior cosmetics, and her face was covered with scum.
But let yourself have a good joke, from now on, it seems that Chu Lihua's behavior will decrease, right?
Really lifting a rock to shoot yourself in the foot, why is this mouth so short.
Meng Xianxiang is still trying to figure out how to get over it.
Chu Lihua, who was choosing clothes, was also asked the same question by Lanzhi.
¡ª¡ª"It is said that women are pleasing to themselves, what is your situation? Why don't you tell me the truth?"
Lanzhi had a smirk on his face.
Chu Lihua looked up at the sky the ceiling, Lanzhi, what kind of brain circuit is this.
However, Chu Lihua happily told Lanzhi about her plan.
¡ª¡ª"Is this how self-confidence comes from? This is just a businessman's routine. If you are as intellectual as you, you will fall into such a trap?"
Chu Lihua looked at Lanzhi and said very seriously, "Environmental factors cannot determine our destiny. We can change our own destiny by interpreting our own experiences."
¡ª¡ª"But what does this have to do with new clothes?"
¡ª¡ª"For me, finer and more expensive clothes will bring me a different inner experience. I have to go back to tell you about this."
Chu Lihua has already started to change herself and let go of the past.
The people at the club found that without Chu Lihua, they suddenly broke up, and, suddenly, they seemed to have lost their backbone, and returned to the previous chaos.
Both Kang Xuming and Yaolivas mentioned going to get Chu Lihua back, but although everyone agreed, they were unwilling to go by themselves.
Chu Lihua didn't know about this, her life really changed after she changed her mind and approach. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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