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Psychological analysis of this kind of people who like to sit and wait to eat the fruits of victory is obviously not very popular with everyone.
This kind of person is more likely to appear in the kind of family where everything is arranged, because the things to be done since childhood have been arranged by the family, eat, open your mouth, dress and stretch your legs, and you don¡¯t have to do things on your own initiative. After you get out of the family, you still will Keep asking others in this way.
They themselves are often not aware of any problems with themselves, and feel that others should treat them well.
At that time, I just thought, "I am so pitiful, so unfortunate, you should treat me well."
And as for, boyfriend?
I am your girlfriend, you should treat me well.
Later, I changed my mind and got to know fellow villager Yang Jinmei, right?
Is this the reason why I am not liked by women?
Is it male? People are too lazy to care about you.
Once she figured it out, Chu Lihua felt her back go cold.
The person who is still by my side now is really true love!
In fact, God really cares for me!
The third type is the avoidance type.
This type of life style is also quite common, that is, they have no confidence, dare not face the problems in life, and habitually choose to avoid any problems when they encounter them, and they still want to save face.
For example, I think this project is too difficult, and I guess I won¡¯t be able to finish it, and I will feel ashamed if I can¡¯t finish it, so what should I do? Just kill it in the cradle.
For example, I want to get a certain qualification certificate, but the pass rate of this certificate is very low. What should I do if I have not passed the test? If I have worked hard and have not passed the test, it means that I am a fool, so I should not sign up;
In this way, when someone asks me why I don¡¯t have a certificate, I can say that I didn¡¯t sign up, which sounds better than signing up but not passing the test, because signing up is a matter of choice, but not passing the test is a matter of ability.
The bigger reason for dropping out of school by yourself is because you are worried that you won't be able to graduate, right?
Instead of doing this, it is better to quit school early, so as to save yourself some face.
Think about it, don't keep saying that Qing Yunfei loves face too much, who doesn't love face?
Always staring at other shortcomings, in fact, I have this shortcoming!
Chu Lihua didn't dare to think about it anymore, for fear that she would not be able to accept it when the time came.
The fourth type is social interest type.
People with this style are able to cooperate with others and have prosocial behavior. Usually family members understand and respect each other when they are young, and people with a harmonious family atmosphere will have such a life style.
The main performance of people with this style is that they like to deal with others, are enthusiastic, consider others, and take care of others' feelings. This is also currently considered the healthiest style of life.
The difference between these four behavior styles is not obvious in normal times, but they will show their own characteristics when encountering difficulties. The first three tend to avoid, and they are used to making excuses for themselves. Only the last one will Rise to the challenge and take the difficulty as a challenge. And most of these styles are formed at a very young age, in the relationship with family members.
My own enthusiasm is also infected by other people after slowly getting in touch with society, right?
Because there are always such people around.
Chu Lihua recalled the experiences of these years little by little, and even had a feeling of wanting to write down these "unbearable pasts" and publish them.
Let more people take warning.
Let them see that such an "unbearable" person can transform little by little.
When we get along with the world, we will inevitably encounter all kinds of suffering, and people will have different ways of coping with suffering.
How did this difference in coping come about? Adler believes that it is mainly the desire for superiority and the resistance to inferiority complex.
Inferiority and the pursuit of superiority appear in pairs. Each of us has an inferiority complex more or less. For example, when we see a radiant goddess, we will feel that we are far behind;
Another example is that when we meet a great master in a certain field, we will also feel that we are good food. But this is not a bad thing, because it is this feeling that pushes us to surpass our imperfect self and move towards a better and stronger self.
In this respect, low self-esteem is the driving force for our progress, and ultimately allows us to achieve excellence.
There are two levels of inferiority complex, one is called inferiority complex, and the other is called inferiority complex. Inferiority complex is not a disease, inferiority complex is a kind of mental illness.
Inferiority complex is our everyIt is a kind of complex emotion that everyone will have. It may be more obvious when encountering certain things that we are not good at or familiar with, but when we are doing things that we are good at, this feeling is not. exists.
For example, when I am facing someone I like, I am so nervous that I can¡¯t speak, and I feel that I am not worthy of him, but I can chat with other friends normally, so we cannot be said to be a person with an inferiority complex.
Inferiority complex is an excessive and excessive inferiority complex, just like a person shrinks back in everything he does, feeling that he is not good enough.
In life, only a very small number of people really have an inferiority complex and need psychological counseling.
Therefore, many of the situations we usually talk about are the first kind of inferiority complex, which is a kind of psychological balance broken by someone or something.
For example, in the end-of-year assessment, all colleagues in the department are A, and only I am C. This gap will break our psychological balance and make us feel embarrassed.
After we suffer setbacks and generate inferiority complex emotions, we can realize compensation by transforming them into motivation. The process is roughly like this:
Psychological balance is broken, resulting in a sense of inferiority, and building a sense of superiority through compensation to offset the sense of inferiority and strengthen the sense of superiority.
There are also two methods of compensation here, one is to fight to the end, and practice where you can't.
For example, athletes who run with prosthetic limbs in the Paralympic Games, orators who used to stutter, etc., all belong to this category;
There is another way to compensate from another direction.
For example, if I am not good at communicating with people, I can do some scientific research and creative work, which has less contact with people.
If you are a person who is particularly good at expressing, go to work such as sales or teachers that communicate more with people.
Another example is that some people engage in mental activities when they have physical disabilities. For example, the famous Hawking, orator Nick Huzhe without hands and feet, etc., are all people with congenital deficiencies, but they use other strengths to compensate themselves, so that they can be in general. The level is balanced with everyone.
See, I have already accumulated enough ways to change myself.
It's just that because of those self-righteous "shortcuts" in my heart, I have been dragging my feet and not wanting to change.
I'm afraid that without that shell, I won't be able to be as "unscrupulous" as I am now. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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