Chu Lihua opened her eyes for a moment, just in time to see Qing Yunfei's head turned to this side.
Is he looking at himself?
Involuntarily, Chu Lihua, who hadn't blushed at Qing Yunfei for a long time, somehow felt her cheeks a little hot.
Thinking of letting Qing Yunfei see her embarrassing appearance, Chu Lihua's ears began to feel hot.
She turned her head quickly, lowered her head; closed her eyes, pretending to hide her embarrassment obviously.
Qing Yunfei looked at the blushing woman, the corners of his mouth became wider and wider.
He knew he had hope again.
Due to the golden city, the golden stone is opened, so, it's great.
After all, she is a soft-hearted girl, and I will gradually change in the future.
Home is where you are.
After the interruption just now, Chu Lihua could no longer calm down to think about it, so she started to play with the children on the ground.
How time flies! In a blink of an eye, the twins were able to climb so slippery.
Looking at the smiling faces of the children, Chu Lihua felt that, in fact, it was worth it in this world.
Live your own life well, and then think about helping others and changing the world.
She no longer goes to the courtyard.
Do not organize everyone to moxibustion together.
Everything depends on their willingness.
As the fundraising continued, that person also apologized to Chu Lihua, because, with the money coming in, the hospital had already begun further treatment.
Chu Lihua nodded and smiled at the apology, perhaps accepting it.
However, Chu Lihua still felt very uncomfortable.
Are you stupid or do you look like a bully?
This kind of thing will also fall on me.
Maybe, it's because I look at compassion.
Thinking of this, Chu Lihua felt much more at ease.
It's just that the effect of speaking directly would be different.
At least, I will feel much more comfortable in my heart, and I will be happy to help.
Whose fault is our misfortune?
Where do our troubles come from?
For these two questions, Chu Lihua felt that Adler's core ideas were well understood, and perhaps they could be explained clearly.
You can make your own choice. Specifically, your life is not given by others, but chosen by yourself. Your choices have nothing to do with anyone else or what happened in the past.
In this way, everything is one's own choice.
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Various past events emerged in Chu Lihua's mind. Even if it was a "fraud" that my mother thought was a huge loss in Beijing, I went to Dr. Zhao for treatment.
Indeed, I insisted on going.
In particular, the director at the time actually did everything possible to prevent him from going.
As a result, he was able to receive treatment again as a non-employee because of his good relationship with his apprentices.
What about the so-called offshore financial investment?
Even if you don't know the nature at the beginning, but in fact, if you are not greedy, you will not join.
If you are not greedy, it is impossible for people who have already paid back their capital a long time ago to keep putting money in it because they are thinking about the high interest rates they get every day.
Yes, no matter how many numbers you look at later, it¡¯s useless.
Investigate the reason, what is the psychological cause?
Is it inferiority, or self righteousness?
Just like that female student, her distress was that she was afraid of seeing people, and she blushed when she was in front of people. She said that she wanted to cure this blush phobia no matter what.
The philosopher asked her: "If this blush phobia is cured, what do you want to do?" The girl replied that there was a boy she liked very much and wanted to date, but because of this blushing problem, she never dared. Express your heart. The girl also said that once the blush phobia is cured, she will confess to him immediately.
Is she too inferior or too self-righteous?
Adler said that the reason why you are unfortunate now is precisely because you have chosen "unfortunate" yourself. The reason why you can't change is because you have made the determination to "not change".
But once you make up your mind, what should you do?
Instead of making up your mind to say, "I want to change!"
Adler believed that each of our actions in life is a performance for others. This performance includes one's own survival mode and life style.
What kind of world do you see, you will make corresponding?? reaction, forming a corresponding style of life.
He believes that the early life style is basically formed at the age of 3-5, so we can predict a child's future life style from his behavior.
Adler believes in what we Chinese say about being old at the age of 3 and being old at the age of 7.
After summarizing the books, Chu Lihua came up with four common life styles.
The first type is dominance.
We can tell from the name that this kind of person likes to dominate and dominate others, and will gain satisfaction by controlling others. If he thinks that I can control you, it means that I am better than you.
For example, we often see such a scene, a child wants to buy roadside snacks, but his mother is afraid that it will be unhygienic and refuses to buy them for him, so he rolls and splashes on the main road.
Don't underestimate this kind of behavior. Although he didn't use force to hit him, his method is trying to control this mother. If the mother compromises at this time, or compromises habitually, it will give the child An urge to constantly control others, which will shape his behavioral style with others in the future.
This kind of dominating personality is not the same as what we call a leader personality. A leader personality encourages and cooperates in a proper way so that others are willing to follow you and support you. This is no longer the case. It is to force you, threaten you, in short, it is to make you obey in a way you don't like.
When she first read this passage, Chu Lihua wanted to laugh.
Thinking about it now, Chu Lihua felt ashamed and flustered.
Although her treatment of her previous boyfriends, including Qing Yunfei, has improved somewhat, the way she treats her is still the same.
Why cling to your "misfortune"? Just want to use this to control them to achieve the results they want.
The reason is also ridiculous, I am so pitiful, why don't you treat me better?
This and the person who threatened him to raise money for his mother are nothing more than laughing at each other.
It turned out that when I encountered such a thing, it was to wake me up, and I couldn't do this again in the future.
I also have to let go of the past and live a sunny and healthy life.
The second type is the request type.
This kind of person is very passive in everything he does. He never knows how to write the two words of initiative. He just hopes that someone will arrange everything for him, and he just waits to eat what is ready-made.
For example, when everyone eats hot pot together, some people just sit around and don't help, just keep asking if they are done, and just eat by themselves.
Chu Lihua did a lot of things like this.
Reason? Of course it's because "I can't see clearly!"
Haha, it's ridiculous.
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