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Chapter 928 The Difference Between Them

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    Chu Lihua laughed, for them at that time

    ¡ª¡ª"This is more like a famous quote by Chaplin. If you use a close-up close-up, life is a tragedy, but if you take a few steps back and use a long-range view to describe life, it is a comedy.

    Sometimes, you will fall into this psychological trap called "over-identification" by psychologists, constantly looking for supporting evidence for your behavior and judgment, and constantly deepening the depth of the evidence level.

    That's why I got deeper and deeper into a problem.  In fact, as long as we learn to take a step back and observe the problem objectively in the perspective, we will be able to see more unsupported evidence, get more room for maneuver and adjustment, and let the problem be solved smoothly.

    Let's talk about the depth of a problem at the level of strength.

    For a problem, the stronger our beliefs are, the harder it is to change; conversely, the weaker our beliefs are, the easier it is to change.

    For example, a mother suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder, she firmly believes that the bacteria on her hands will affect the health of her children, so the belief of "protecting children" will make her force herself to wash her hands.

    And the stronger her belief, the harder it is to change her obsessive-compulsive disorder.

    I have another example of an extreme case to tell you.  We all know that the Jews who were imprisoned in the concentration camps will soon develop an obsession that the survival rate in the concentration camps is very low and they may die every day.

    This belief will make it difficult to change the impact of the harsh external environment around you.

    But there was a Jewish psychologist, Frankel, and what he did was to reinforce another belief, that is, I still have a lot of meaningful things to do.

    During World War II, he was imprisoned in Auschwitz concentration camp.  At that time, the manuscript that he spent his whole life writing was confiscated by the guards; this made him have a strong desire in his heart, that is, he must rewrite the book.

    It is also this powerful force that helped him overcome many harsh situations in the concentration camp.  For example, once, he got very severe typhoid fever, and many people in the concentration camp were killed because of this typhoid fever.

    However, during the high fever, Frankel still insisted on thinking every day, recalling the content of his manuscript, and then frantically taking notes on various scraps of paper he could find.  He was so determined to get out of the camp alive that the book could be published.

    The power of this belief not only helped him defeat typhoid fever, but also allowed him to resist a sudden heart attack, a cold winter once in a century, and countless moments of mental breakdown when he brushed shoulders with death.

    If Frankl was adhering to the belief of most people, it is that the survival rate in the concentration camp is very low, and I may die every day.  But he shattered his obsession with the belief of survival.

    And I also used the same method to make myself healthy.  After failing many times, I firmly believe that I can recover my health and return to normal.

    Through the various methods we are trying together now, although I have not fully recovered yet, I have managed to change my previous inherent eye diseases.  This is a good start, and I will firmly believe that I will definitely recover.  "

    Chu Lihua's encouragement, mixed with personal uncontrollable excitement, also infected everyone.

    Even, those two people were a little moved.

    Chu Lihua strikes while the iron is hot, "Just now we discussed whether a problem that bothers you can be changed is determined by the biological level of the problem, the level of evidence obtained, and the level of the power of belief.

    All of us can compare and observe our own behavior, which level of factors are more affected, and thus judge the difficulty of making changes.

    Next, we will come to some more specific operation methods.

    Let me give you an example to illustrate the difficulty of changing specific problems, which is what I want to share with you next: which problems are impossible to change, which are difficult to change, and which are easy to change?

    Let me first talk about what is basically unchangeable.  For example, on the issue of weight, (laughs) for 90% of overweight people, the effect of dieting can only be temporary.

    I have experienced this myself. I started dieting to lose weight from 100 catties, and then reduced to 105 catties.  (Another self-deprecating laugh.)

    Our genetics and biological indicators will set us an ideal weight. If we want to change this ideal weight, then we may need to do genetic testing;

    find your ownGene type, and then can make a targeted decision, whether to consume less carbohydrates, or consume less fat, or even change your overall dietary structure;

    Or, we need to find a way to add plug-ins to our bodies, that is to say, to change the probiotic community in our intestines.  Relying on simple and untargeted dieting will only do harm but not benefit.

    There are many things that are difficult to change like weight and require us to accept.

    The most common thing around me is the love of alcohol, which is also hereditary; it is the so-called biological addiction, which means that a person's cells can only function normally in an environment full of alcohol.

    Therefore, alcoholism also has a certain biological basis, and it is difficult to change.

    Another example is a person's sexual orientation. When the mother is pregnant, the baby's sexual orientation has already been established.

    Neuroscientists believe that when the mother is pregnant, there may be a special mechanism in the brain of the fetus that determines his sexual orientation.

    This is also a deep-seated biological basis, which determines that the issue of sexual orientation is basically unchangeable.

    After talking about the basic things that cannot be changed, let's talk about which aspects can only be changed a little even if we put in a lot of effort.

    I believe that you must be familiar with the feeling of anxiety.  For example, if you once failed two subjects in school, when the next exam is coming, you will be a little worried, and you may even lose sleep.

    For another example, the horror movies we have watched always give us nightmares.

    Similarly, people who have experienced a fire are prone to nightmares, and firefighters who have rescued a fire are likely to be awakened by nightmares in the middle of the night.

    Many people think that anxiety is easy to change, and they want to change it very much.  But in fact, not only is anxiety not easy to change, but at the same time, it is very necessary to retain normal anxiety.  "(Remember this site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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