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Sometimes, Chu Lihua deliberately turned up her voice so that Qing Yunfei could hear it.
Isn't this kind of thinking a little bit like being swayed by the ears and eyes!
Who knows, that guy turned on the variety show and started watching, and the exaggerated laughter filled the whole room.
Chu Lihua felt a pain in her head, why did the laughter that she performed so forcefully still attract Qing Yunfei's attention so much?
How could such a husband be chosen at that time?
The following audio just made Chu Lihua suddenly realize.
"To use an analogy, getting married is actually the same as trading in stocks. You never know whether you will encounter the Chinese stock market or the US stock market.
Why do you want to study finance? It's not like you have to get to know the other party before marriage. Only after you get to know the other party can you understand where the risks lie, and then you can know how to better avoid risks and disperse risks. So, here are the reasons why you should study finance. "
It turns out that it was a failure experience in the past, and I didn't systematically learn how to choose a good marriage partner, so this caused the current situation.
Then I have already bought the "Chinese stock market", so should I stop the loss and exit in time?
Increase the position at the bottom to reduce costs?
This method is not impossible, because even those who bought at the highest point in 2008, if they choose the right fund company, their current income has reached more than 80%. It's being cut in half.
Well, according to this line of thinking, professional things need professional people to do them.
The current relationship with Qing Yunfei is either not good, or there is no common language.
If it is said that learning more about this aspect of knowledge, it should be possible to improve it.
After all, a partner is the one who will accompany you throughout your life.
? While attention is precious, it is worth spending it on someone who deserves it.
After this analysis, when Chu Lihua looked at Qing Yunfei again, she no longer felt so deeply repelled.
¡ª¡ª"Baby, let's discuss something with youTurn down your voice a little bit."
Although there is no reply there. However, that exaggerated laughter suddenly disappeared in the room, at least Chu Lihua couldn't hear it clearly.
After Chu Lihua finished her financial studies, she began to search for some books on marriage with good reviews on Douban.
The title of Fromm's book "The Art of Love" attracted Chu Lihua, and she directly ordered an e-book and started reading it.
Fromm pointed out that love is a manifestation of a person's overall personality. To develop the ability to love, one must strive to develop one's entire personality and make unremitting efforts toward self-realization.
Love, like the other arts, requires discipline, focus, patience, and interest.
But it is special. To acquire the ability to love, one must overcome narcissism, look at the world objectively and rationally, and believe that human beings can achieve new harmony and unity through love.
Through love, to achieve a new harmony and unity?
So what exactly is love?
Philosophers say that love is the pursuit of truth;
Sociologists say that love is the most harmonious interpersonal relationship;
The artist said that love is the highest pleasure in the world;
And scientists say that love is actually the secretion of dopamine in the brain.
Why are they so abstract? Isn't love a kind of ability?
Like painting or sculpture, requiring those who want to be loved to have this knowledge and work hard for it?
Or is love just an accidental, exhilarating feeling that only the lucky ones can "fall" in love?
Even today, most people still believe in the latter hypothesis, at least Chu Lihua herself thinks so.
Thinking that love is romance at first sight, is being lucky enough to find one's mr. or ms.right.
In other words, it is an object problem. But Fromm clearly believed in the former hypothesis.
In his view, love is not a question of an object, but an ability that needs to be cultivated, an art.
If you want to master this art, you must not only have knowledge in this area, but also work hard for it.
Interesting, it is an ability that needs to be cultivated.
Fromm, is this person reliable?
Chu Lihua put down her phone, checked the information on the Internet, and yo! This guy has a lot of background!
He is not onlyA well-known psychologist who is also a sociologist and philosopher.
In the field of psychology, he is an important successor of Freud's theory, and is a representative of Neo-Freudism along with Karen Horney and others.
In the field of sociology, he is also an important member of the Frankfurt School, an important contemporary school of thought in the West.
Fromm's theory combines the thoughts of Freud and Marx, the two masters, and adopts the strengths of the two, and forms his own style on this basis.
Because he is particularly good at applying the psychological method of psychoanalysis to the analysis of human social behavior, he is also respected as one of the founders of social psychology.
Great man!
Done!
Chu Lihua was soon immersed in it, watching with relish.
"Fromm said that the essence of love is the answer to the question of human existence. How do you understand this sentence?
This involves a question: Can animals love? For example, we see the care of the mother beast for the cub, isn't it similar to love?
However, in Fromm's view, what is similar to love in animals is more of a biological instinct.
But man is different from animals, he has surpassed the animal kingdom, and has broken away from the harmony and unity with nature, that is, he has been separated from the natural mother.
At the same time, human beings are rational enough to recognize the existence of the self and the phenomena of birth, old age, sickness and death.
So he becomes aware of his unique situation of separation, and thus develops a feeling that he is alone.
And with loneliness comes fear, the fear of losing contact with the outside world, the fear that the world will overwhelm me, and there is nothing I can do about it.
Therefore, for man, his greatest need is to overcome loneliness and re-establish connection with others and the whole world. "
It turns out that the essence of love is to fight against loneliness?
Fromm lists three ways to overcome loneliness.
The first way is to indulge in desire.
For example, with the help of drugs or medicines, one enters into a trance state, feeling the fusion of things and oneself, one with the heaven and the earth.
So in this state of extreme excitement, the isolation from the world also disappears.
Many ceremonies among primitive tribes are intended to achieve this effect, and participants in these ceremonies will also use hallucinogenic drugs to achieve this state.
In modern times, many people use alcohol, drugs or sex, as well as games, to achieve this purpose.
When Chu Lihua read this, she suddenly felt goosebumps all over her body.
Fortunately, Qing Yunfei and himself do not have these bad habits. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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