In fact, since the day my father passed away, relatives and friends have come to worship one after another. But in terms of ceremony, we have to report the death of our close relatives, whether they know it or not. Reporting the funeral, as the name suggests, is to pass the news of the father's death to them in a certain way.
Before reporting the funeral, there are some things we must prepare. As long as the younger generation, they have to wear white hats and mourning clothes (white clothes) on the day of their father's funeral. Therefore, the first thing we need to prepare is the white cloth. When reporting a funeral, giving the white cloth to relatives and friends is called "receiving the cloth" here. Secondly, as long as people wear filial piety, everyone must wear white shoes on the day of the funeral. Therefore, the second thing we need to prepare is white sneakers. Of course, the white sneakers were sent along with the white cloth. Those of the younger generation, who have a close relationship with their father, still need to make a certain financial contribution on the day of their father's funeral. As for those contributions, this will be mentioned again in the future, so I will not explain in detail here. For the father's affairs, asking one's close relatives to bear an excessive financial burden is certainly not what the master wants to see. Therefore, we usually pay a part of the funds in advance directly when the funeral is reported, so that the loved ones can meet the unexpected needs when the funeral is going out. And this process is called "taking money" here.
Therefore, when someone passes away, relatives often ask each other: "Did you receive the cloth and the money?" If you received the "cloth" and the "money", then naturally there is no suspense. Played the leading role on the day of the funeral. But those who did not receive the "cloth" and "money" felt very embarrassed while feeling lost in their hearts (the so-called difference between closeness and closeness, those who did not receive it meant that they were "alienated"). When the time comes, do you want to go? If you go, what kind of posture will you take to attend? Of course, those who feel embarrassed are also those who think that their relationship is relatively close. Ordinary relatives and friends, as long as they send the gift money, show up, and go to a banquet at most on the day of the funeral, that's enough.
Announcing the funeral is the first ceremony after a person passes away, and it is also a very important ceremony. With the progress of society, such rituals have gradually faded. In the past, if the host's family forgot to report the funeral, even close relatives could completely ignore the funeral as if they didn't know about it. Because, "forgetting to report the funeral" is a very rude behavior. In China, which has always paid attention to reciprocity, since the master's family is rude first, even the closest relatives will be rude later. Therefore, after all the preparatory work is completed, the next thing we have to do is to carefully sort out our close relatives several times until we are sure that nothing is missed.
Next, what to do is to "report the funeral" in the true sense. With the progress of the times and the development of science and technology, if you just send a letter (informing your relatives of the specific date of your father's funeral), then you can make a phone call or a mobile phone. However, it is obvious that "reporting a funeral" cannot do this. Firstly, if this is done, it will be an extremely disrespectful behavior; secondly, if this is done, the important ceremony of "receiving cloth" and "receiving money" will not be completed. Therefore, the present reporting of funerals still has to rely on manpower. To put it simply, it is necessary to invite a special person to run around relatives one by one.
Of course, the current technology is not useless, at least it provides a fast and convenient means of transportation for reporting funerals. In the past, people usually reported funerals with their legs. Therefore, reporting funerals at that time required a lot of manpower. Under normal circumstances, one person was responsible for running one place. But now, so many people are no longer needed. Only one person is fully capable of all the work of "reporting funerals".
What we are looking for is the eldest son of my father's cousin's family, because he has a fairly solid financial foundation as a contractor. Among our acquaintances, except for his cousin, he is the only one who owns a private car. Moreover, as far as his close relationship with his father (father is not only his cousin, but also his master), he absolutely cannot refuse. Of course, he himself is also the object of "bereavement". However, since he was in charge of "reporting the funeral", naturally no one would go to his home. His "cloth" and "money" were free for him to take back with him.
It is convenient to have a car. We put the white cloth, white sneakers and money needed for "declaring the funeral" in advance in the car of the eldest son of the father's cousin's family. According to the location of the relatives' residence, we have to plan a reasonable "bereavement" route for him in advance, so as to avoid ineffective and time-consuming running back and forth. Most of my relatives do not know him, not only does he not know the specific place of residence, but he may not know the specific person. All he could find was the village where my relatives lived. Therefore, I have already copied the names of all relatives, the name of the village where they live, and the contact phone number on a piece of paper in advance. Of course, not all those who "report a funeral" need to "receive the cloth"."Receiving money", so I have to mark on it, which people need it. If it is not marked, it is naturally unnecessary. If it is needed, it must also indicate how many pieces of cloth, how many pairs of white sneakers and how much money it needs. The exact number is not exactly the same for different families. If you make a mistake, if it is too small, people will get angry and spread the disrespect of the host family everywhere;
Although the eldest son of my father's cousin's family is not young, my mother is still not very relieved of him. Together with our eighty-year-old elders in our family, I have given thousands of instructions to let him report the funeral no matter where he goes. At home, you must remember not to leave without eating anything, even if you have a sip of water, you must drink it. When it comes to funerals, people here seem to pay more attention to this point. Whether it is relatives and friends who come to pay respects, or this time going to another house to "report the funeral", they must eat something, even if it is a sip of water. But, as for why? I am not very clear. Perhaps, people think that "death" is an unlucky thing, and try to get rid of bad luck by "drinking water".
After making sure that there was nothing missing, we completely entrusted the important matter of "reporting the funeral" to the eldest son of his father's cousin. He also readily assured that he would do his best to complete the "report of the funeral" without any mistakes. In fact, such a guarantee is completely unnecessary, because if we don't believe it, how can we ask him to help us "report the funeral"? (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com