In fact, neither my sister nor I know whether our persuasion has worked. But the situation has developed to such an extent that we have no choice but to give up our plan to continue persuasion, whether there is or is not. Alas, let things take their course. In addition, my sister and I secretly made up our minds that we must take more time to come back in the future. In this way, on the one hand, it can reduce the burden of care for the mother, and on the other hand, it can also allow the father to taste a truly varied meal. To change my mother's rebuttal a little bit, "we have to come when we are free!"
In fact, logically speaking, we also have to persuade my father to change his slightly cold way of speaking in the past. However, seeing his father's emaciated figure (before suffering from cancer, his father was overweight), his painful expression, and his slightly sluggish mental state, he couldn't bear to say what he had to say. Because we are afraid that our words of persuasion will be taken as reproaches by our fathers, as our mothers were. If Dad gets emotional about it, then we are all "death" to blame.
We did not try to persuade our mother, nor did we persuade our father in turn. However, we have made up our minds to ease the tension between parents through our own efforts. In our opinion, these insignificant contradictions should disappear quickly with the tempering of time. Just, do we have enough time?
During the second re-examination, we did not meet the attending physician after the results of the father¡¯s examination came out (if we met, he would definitely inform the next re-examination time), and my father strongly resisted chemotherapy (the attending physician emphasized that he must Chemotherapy), so we actually have no plan to "go to the Municipal People's Hospital for a review". However, the so-called man is not as good as heaven. Unexpectedly, after the second reexamination, my father's uncomfortable feeling became more and more obvious, especially the pain from the scar. Although we said consolingly: "How can such a big scar recover so quickly? Pain should be normal." But in fact, we still felt something was wrong in our hearts. So, without father's repeated urging, we unanimously decided to go to the hospital for a check-up on the following Thursday (the attending physician's outpatient day).
I remember that it was the end of June, and I had no impression of the weather. Anyway, in my memory, that day seems to be all gray. The attending physician was still smiling, and when my father said something was uncomfortable or painful, he just said "normal" calmly. But from the moment the autopsy doctor took a more cautious look at my father's legs, I realized something was wrong. Because, I still remember what my wife's cousin said to me before the operation, "Swollen legs indicate that the condition has reached a serious level!"
After a very careful examination, the attending physician said with a smile, "I think everything should be considered normal. However, if you just look at it with my naked eyes, I think you won't be relieved. How about this, I'll order a doctor who needs to be checked. Project. You go for a CT tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Maybe our place is more expensive, you can go to the Third Hospital or a rural hospital with acquaintances. When the results come out, just show them to me!"
At that time, I was so moved! Because, now there are too few doctors who can take care of patients! After very sincere thanks, we left the Municipal People's Hospital.
Because CT still needs to be done, my parents temporarily lived in a commercial house in our city.
After observing carefully, I already felt something was wrong when I was in the hospital. However, in order not to let my father realize that something was wrong, I had to pretend to be extremely relaxed. After settling my parents down, I immediately hid in the room. I knew that my face at that time must have been quite ugly because of my heavy heart.
Father's inspection should not be delayed, so after calming down a little, I immediately called my sister. Because, in my impression, my sister seems to have acquaintances in the Third Hospital.
After I was convinced that my sister had acquaintances in the Third Hospital, I focused on negotiating with my sister whether to check in the Third Hospital or a rural hospital where my parents had acquaintances. Both my sister and I rejected the plan of going to the country hospital for examination without hesitation. One is that it is not convenient to come and go, and the rural hospital is still quite a distance from our hometown. Second, we feel that the equipment in the rural hospital is too simple, and the results of the inspection may not be accurate. But as for "whether to go to the Third Hospital for inspection", my sister and I didn't make a hasty conclusion. My sister said that it is better to wait until my brother-in-law and my wife come back at noon, and we will discuss and negotiate together before making a decision.
At noon, after everyone's unanimous consultation, it was finally decided to go to the Municipal People's Hospital for an examination. Even if it is more expensive to do a CT at the Municipal People's Hospital, it cannot be so expensive. What's more, if the equipment of the Third Hospital is too poor and the things that should be checked are not found, then even if you can save a few hundred yuan, it will definitely not be worth the candle.
Now that it has been decided, it must beNeed to act now. Doing ct, especially enhanced, is different from doing ordinary examinations. Be sure to make an appointment! Fortunately, this is not the first time we have experienced it, we have already experienced it. Since my sister's home is closer to the Municipal People's Hospital, and my brother-in-law is also free in the afternoon, we handed over the responsibility of making an appointment to my brother-in-law.
Throughout the afternoon, my father was in a bad mood. Of course, it was not because of realizing that my body might deteriorate, but because of dissatisfaction with the attending physician. My father whined from time to time, even while watching TV.
"I said no, but you just don't believe me! (Actually, he was the one who wanted to come and check the most at the time) every time he came for the check, he said 'normal' and 'nothing'. Every time he came, he (the attending physician) could tell How did you come here?"
"It's clearly in pain? He said 'it's okay' and 'it's okay'. I think he (the doctor in charge) can only do surgery, and the rest is probably not good. At least, he can't solve the problem of pain. Or else I won't keep saying 'normal' and 'nothing' anymore."
"The current level of doctors is just not good. If you leave all kinds of equipment, then I guess you can't find any problems. It's not like the old Chinese medicine practitioners who look at their eyes, ask their mouths, feel their pulse, and they can check any problems. Out."
"It's better not to check. I guess even if you do a CT, he (the doctor in charge) still can't solve the pain problem." (When my father said this, I saw the worry in my father's heart .Because I was worried about problems, I was afraid of doing CT. But it was also because of my worries that my father hoped to have a test, so that I could rest assured. Therefore, my father at that time was extremely contradictory.)