In our industry, everything will be fine after simply talking with others, because many conflicts and confusions cannot be resolved on the spot after listening to customers. Some customers may think that what the counselor said is reasonable because the counseling is new, but when they come back to reality , return to the previous state.
Therefore, counselors should do two or three follow-up counseling in the spirit of being responsible to customers. Of course, the kind of responsibility I am talking about is not nanny-style preaching, mixing with customer emotions, but finding the key points of conflicts to solve, not just explaining the truth, and guiding customers to follow your suggestions.
I asked the red-faced man for advice, and he promised to take me to his woman. I think as long as that woman comes, talk to her again, and tell her about the red-faced man, I think I should be able to hear my spicy words. No matter what kind of woman she is, it has nothing to do with me, I just solve the conflict for the client.
Two days later, the red-faced man called me, saying that his woman was determined not to come, and said that if there was something to talk about, he would come home to talk.
The red-faced man almost begged to invite me to his house and have a good talk with his woman. Hey, to be honest, I am a person who can't see others begging, so I agreed with a few soft words.
Zang Lin asked me to go to the red-faced man's house, should she accompany me? I looked at her, thinking that I should really take Zang Lin there. In this case, the woman of the red-faced man will not be embarrassed when she sees her.
According to the agreed time, Zang Lin and I arrived at the red-faced man's house, and saw that they lived in a house from the 1980s. Although the exterior was very old, the house was neatly tidied up. It can be seen that the family loves cleanliness.
The red-faced man enthusiastically let us into the house. Just as Zang Lin and I sat down, the red-faced man was busy pouring water and fruit for us. It seemed that he supported the family. It is also a man, and the desire to fight for the injustice of the man arises spontaneously.
At this time, a woman came out of another room. The woman is of medium height, with permed hair, small glasses, a high nose bridge, and slightly upturned lips. She doesn't look very coquettish.
The woman also smiled and said to me and Zang Lin: "You are welcome to come. If you don't mind, can I talk to you?"
I didn't expect this woman to be so cheerful and straightforward. I thought that as long as she was willing to talk, the problem would be solved easily.
I asked Zang Lin to talk to the red-faced man first, and I had a preliminary exchange with the woman alone.
First of all, I made it clear to the woman that this visit was not to interfere with their housework, but just a procedure of counseling.
The women nodded, and she said that the red-faced man had talked to her about counseling, but she didn't really want to go to my place, thinking that whatever she wanted to talk about could be put on the table.
It seems that she doesn't want to make things too bad for the two of them. I said that it is not easy for people to be together in this life. There is both fate and affection. It is better to understand each other. There is no need to lose the fate because of some locked things.
She also talked about the red-faced man, from their first acquaintance, to the conflicts between them during this period.
It turned out that they were not half-way couples, they just had a good impression of each other in the same unit before, and after the unit was restructured, the two walked together.
But they have both been divorced, and they have not received a marriage certificate since they were together. The woman said that the red-faced man earns money by himself. Class reunions, men are not willing.
The woman said angrily that when she met a male classmate or a male colleague on the street and said a few words, the red-faced man would think wildly, thinking that she was interesting to the male classmate.
Even when she had a party with her family, the red-faced man would not let her attend, fearing that she would have an affair with some brother-in-law or brother-in-law.
When the woman said this, I wondered if she divorced her ex-husband because of an affair, otherwise the red-faced man wouldn't take it so seriously.
I asked her who was the man who had dinner and went to the hotel with her some time ago. The woman didn't expect me to mention this question, and her face turned red, but this woman's psychological quality is very good, and she quickly rejected my inference. He said It's just a classmate who works in other places. She wants to find a classmate to do some business, and she has some pocket money in her hand, so she doesn't need to look at the man's face.
I smiled slightly, thinking that I had slept with another man, and I was still stubborn. Of course, this is also understandable. After all, people will try their best to keep secrets about cheating, and will not let outsiders know.
I didn't continue to ask her on this question, because it involves people's privacy, and I have no right to control other people's affairs, so I changed the topic.
I asked if her life with the red-faced man was harmonious? The woman was stunned by my question, and I quickly explained that I asked this topic to confirm the relationship between the two parties. After all, a harmonious family life can ensure the continuation of the relationship. As long as they are together,People who eat whole grains will not live in harmony if they live together.
She told me softly that life with red-faced men is very dull and confused, and she is very tired of red-faced men.
Hearing what she said, I basically understood more than half of it. This is like a married couple. Once the novelty wears off, conflicts and problems will follow. Once the crux of the problem is found, then the right medicine will be prescribed.
The woman and I first talked about our relationship. After all, human hearts are fleshy. No matter how unfeeling a person is, as long as it is not a major issue of principle, some things can be discussed.
I asked the woman to close her eyes, recall the beginning of knowing the red-faced man, and think about every bit of their life.
The woman closed her eyes, and I looked at her, wondering if she really wanted it or imagined it. After a while, I saw tears welling up in the corners of her eyes. I think she is still a sentient woman.
I asked the woman to open her eyes, and she suddenly asked me, "Mr. Lin, what method did you use, why is it so magical?"
I smiled and told her that no matter whether you are a husband or wife, or live together as a partner, the trilogy of pots, pans and pans will inevitably have conflicts of one kind or another. It is unrealistic to dream of that fantasy romance at this age.
As for the red-faced man's behavior, I don't agree with it either, but I told the woman that the red-faced man may care too much about her to have that suspicion, but I promised the woman that I would convince the red-faced man. After the woman listened to me, she thanked me again and again.
Then I talked about the difference between men and women in their 40s and 50s in achieving their careers. I said that if a man of this age can still take care of his family and work outside for his career, at least he will have a passing grade.
Of course, I don¡¯t think that women in their 40s and 50s can¡¯t achieve careers. If a woman in her 40s or 50s has no ability and lives by working part-time, in fact, this kind of life is very tiring. It¡¯s better to rely on the meager pension to enjoy life. Do what you can.
In fact, living like them is for the sake of their children, and they choose to live together, so that they can take care of each other when they are old.
After I said this, the woman fell into thinking. I knew that I had hit her vital point. She is not an unreasonable person. People have lived to this age and have experienced everything. Regardless of the consequences.
I think the effect is almost the same, I think I have to add a few words, I asked the woman, what would she think if the red-faced man had an affair outside, or had another woman outside.
The woman sobbed when she heard this, and she said that from the bottom of her heart, the red-faced man is not a bad person, he is very responsible, but he is narrow-minded. Looking back on how kind he was to him before, she thinks that she has gone out of line.
I thought to myself, which man would be big-eyed when it comes to cheating? Unless you're a fool.
I tell women that it is best to live an ordinary life. If life is full of turmoil and romance, it will be a film and television drama. As long as you face reality and face life squarely, everything will be fine.
I called the red-faced man over again, and told him that his woman was very sad to him, and that he also did not do enough.
The red-faced man nodded after hearing what I said, and it was obvious that he really didn't want to be separated from the woman.
If a woman can follow him like this, you have to be responsible to her. I said to give women some money every month. Although each has a salary, at least it can make women feel balanced.
Just think that it is good to let women eat and drink well, but also be generous, and remember the principle of sand no matter what.
Later, the red-faced man gave me a pennant. He said that now the conflict between the two has been resolved and life is going well. After hearing this, I felt a sense of accomplishment.
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