Adler and Jung were originally disciples of Freud. Only because they studied hard and realized thoroughly, they were able to stand on their own and form a three-legged confrontation.
There was a child who had a miserable childhood: he was weak and sick since he was a child, almost died of pneumonia, and suffered from rickets, so he was very short and had poor athletic ability.
? Even luck is not very good, he actually had two car accidents, his grades were not good, and he was at the bottom of the class, so he felt very inferior.
But it was such a child with poor background and low self-esteem, who finally counterattacked.
He studied hard, from the bottom of the class to the top student. Because he was always sick when he was a child, he wanted to be a doctor, and finally he was admitted to the University of Vienna as a doctor of medicine, realizing his dream.
What's more, he was also appreciated by the most famous psychologist in the world. He studied with him for 9 years, became a master of psychology, and finally created a new school of psychology.
This set of theories includes his experience of changing his destiny by surpassing himself, as well as his thinking about the meaning of his life.
This is the personal experience that Chu Lihua found after admiring Adler.
Now, Chu Lihua also wants to follow his example.
Make a breakthrough in the field you most want to change.
She wants to use her own story, combined with what she has learned, to finally encourage those who have encountered the same experience.
Chu Lihua started to study psychology and medicine independently.
She didn't know which one to give up, so she went to learn both, and then took the self-examination. At that time, whichever aspect of the test is better, continue to develop in that aspect.
Once the goal is set, it takes a step-by-step detailed process to achieve something.
What is the motivation for a person to surpass himself?
Is it a natural comparison psychology?
In Adler's view, no matter what kind of achievements you have made and what kind of environment you are in, you must not be satisfied with your own status quo, and you must want to surpass yourself.
No matter what kind of person you are, you will always want to make your situation better.
Why is this so? According to the analysis of Individual Psychology, it is because there are two bottom-level human emotions that drive us behind:
There are two types that Chu Lihua has analyzed by herself before, one is inferiority complex, and the other is superiority complex.
Under normal circumstances, everyone will think that not everyone has a sense of inferiority complex. Some people may feel inferior due to poor conditions or lack of confidence.
But Adler said, this is not the case. Everyone has inferiority complex, and it is the foundation of human culture and the driving force for human progress. So in his individual psychology, inferiority complex is a core concept.
In this way, it just fit Chu Lihua's spiritual gap.
However, I only knew these two concepts in general just now, and used my own understanding to conduct self-reflection.
Since you want to truly sublimate yourself, you must use Adler's own definition to guide yourself precisely.
Adler said: Some people seem shy, or do things timidly, or like himself, were weak and sick in childhood and had poor grades; Chu Lihua can understand these people's low self-esteem.
But those who seem to be very powerful, even very conceited, do they also have low self-esteem? Yes, in Adler's view, these people also have low self-esteem, and even more low self-esteem.
He gave an example in his book. It is said that three children went to the zoo for the first time, and when they saw a lion, all three of them were very scared.
The first child hid behind his mother and said, "Mom, I want to go home."
The second child stood where he was, his face turned pale with fright, but he said, "I'm not afraid at all."
The third child stared like a hero, and asked his mother, "Mom, can't I spit on it?"
Adler said that in fact, the three children are all afraid and guilty, but they behave in different ways.
The same is true for low self-esteem. Some people look conceited, but in fact it is because they have low self-esteem in their hearts. But he can't solve the fundamental problem, there is no way, so he can only deceive himself and others, forcing himself to believe that "I am better than others", otherwise he will not be able to survive.
In this way, he actually felt more inferior in his heart, but he seemed to be very strong on the outside.
Think about it, in fact, such a person is what we usually call a "paper tiger". Having said that, Chu Lihua felt that she might understand.
There may be such a person around each of us: there is no doubt about what he says and does.??Even if you put forward a little objection, you will turn your face immediately, or give you small shoes to wear, because he is too guilty to stand doubts, he is strong on the outside but low on the inside.
Think about it, the one who rebuts the loudest is actually the one who has the most doubts in his heart.
Chu Lihua remembered when she was guarding the shop alone in Wenshan: the door was closed, there was movement outside the door, and the other person was actually scared to death, but she still asked who was outside with a loud voice.
Until the movement disappeared, and after a long time, she dared to tiptoe to the door and prick up her ears to listen.
After confirming that there was indeed no one outside, she dared to rest assured that she would go to the separate small bed to lie down.
? On the mobile phone in my hand, the interface is 110 that has already been pressed, and I will dial it immediately when the situation is wrong
Therefore, from the perspective of individual psychology, everyone has an inferiority complex, but the manifestations are different.
The next paragraph made Chu Lihua's eyes shine. Adler didn't mean that inferiority complex is bad. On the contrary, he believed that inferiority complex is very important, it is the driving force for human progress, and the foundation of human culture.
Why do you say that? He continued to look for the answer with the question. The low self-esteem he mentioned is actually a kind of dissatisfaction with one's own state, so everyone wants to change their living conditions.
In other words, in individual psychology, inferiority complex is a basic concept. It is not a derogatory term, nor is it a bad state of mind, but a neutral term.
In addition to inferiority complex, there is also a mentality that everyone has, called superiority.
Adler said that everyone has an inferiority complex, and everyone wants to make up for this inferiority complex and pursue a sense of superiority. So these two feelings are actually one and two sides.
What kind of superiority a person pursues, that is, what kind of goal he wants to achieve, is related to his personal inferiority complex.
Adler cited some examples. For example, many doctors experienced the death of family members or friends when they were young, so they have a sense of inferiority and feel that life is not safe.
In order to make up for this inferiority complex, I chose to be a doctor to fight against death, so as to realize my sense of superiority.
However, in most cases, superiority is not a very clear goal, nor is there only one way to achieve it. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com