If you still have this mentality, even though there are several "candidates" who want to spend their lives together.
But, in fact, without living together, many problems cannot be exposed.
Just like Qing Yunfei in the past, he was so perfect and unattainable in his heart.
In fact, Chu Lihua has always known that even if she meets true love, if the trauma in her heart is still there.
Happiness is not so perfect.
The current urgent task is to correct the trauma in my heart.
There is a view that questions Wu Zhihong's point of view. Wu Zhihong blames the reader's psychological trauma on childhood and family relationships, which leads to resentment towards parents, but does not give a way to dispel this hatred.
Chu Lihua also had this idea before.
In fact, Wu Zhihong already had an answer to this question. For example, he mentioned that due to some distortions in his childhood relationship, he would inevitably repeat the same mistakes in his love relationship.
Wu Zhihong said that if you want to get rid of this predicament, perhaps the solution can only be to accept, accept the imperfection of childhood, accept the original image of your parents, and let go of all the grievances in the past.
Put it down, Chu Lihua feels that she has let go a little now, right?
When we were young, we had to rely on adults to grow up. Naturally, it was easy to get involved in the emotional melee of our parents, even the family melee, and we would easily be confused by this war, so we were affected by many bad influences.
Just like, my mother always instilled in herself how bad this relative is, and how bad that relative is.
In addition, the relatives of the host family are not friendly to her, which makes Chu Lihua feel in her young heart that relatives are "bad people" with some blood relationship.
And there was a person who Chu Lihua did not want to be related to by blood.
The mother's "enemy" - the children of her brother's family.
Chu Lihua's cousin.
After Chu Lihua learned that her close relatives cannot marry after she went to school, she always felt that she was not her own.
In this way, you can marry that cousin who treats you so well, and truly live a happy life.
It's just that Chu Lihua now understands, if there is no such blood relationship, would her cousin be so kind to her?
Better than his biological sister?
I remember reading a case in which book. A female visitor always thought that her father was a heinous and incompetent person when she was young. The mother is the one who makes trouble out of no reason;
But when she was young, because she often heard her mother speak ill of her father, she always believed that her father was a bad person, and she did things that hurt her father's feelings many times.
This discovery made her very devastated, and she went from hating her father to hating her mother, but doing so did not relieve her from the pain.
Right, there are some truths, but the truth is covered up by the constant nagging of relatives around you, right?
If you don't want to sink into such pain all the time, you must respect the truth and follow your heart.
Obviously, the women in the example, whether they hate their father or their mother, do not make the client who is a woman happy.
Only by accepting our real parents, focusing on what we already have, and thanking our parents and people around us for all the care that we have given us, can we discover how beautiful what we already have is.
Yes, they don't care about themselves at all, do they?
Caring?
Although it may not be for myself.
However, Chu Lihua remembered that she had to helplessly explain to Qing Yunfei, "People of their generation are like this. They always feel that giving the best meat at home to the people they care about the most is to express love and satisfaction."
Think about it, have you said this out of your own mouth several times?
What is the effect? Just to resolve the embarrassment at Qing Yunfei.
In fact, my heart is helpless and Some adjectives don't seem to be very good.
Anyway, I often say this in my own words, but I don't say it in my heart.
In fact, that is indeed the mother's way of expressing her love, and her coercion and anger are just because she is too ignorant of good and evil, right?
To cultivate your sincerity, you must open the door of your heart.
Only when you open your heart can others' love flow in, and your own love for others can flow out.?Deep feelings can be established.
As long as we learn to know the real person in front of us, actively correct our inner wounds, listen carefully to the other person's voice, and pay attention to the other person's psychological feelings, everyone can have the opportunity to find true love.
In fact, Wu Zhihong's point of view emphasizes that based on the insight and analysis of life, the public can understand the psychological motivation and causes behind the behavior.
The point of view of this school of psychology is very worthy of our understanding and thinking. But psychology has never been a monopoly, and each genre and psychologist must have its limitations and advantages.
As readers, we need to look at problems with a dialectical perspective and read with critical thinking when accepting different viewpoints. Only in this way can we get closer to the truth of the facts.
Another point is emphasized in every book. Psychological counseling is a very complicated and professional job. Every regular psychological counselor has undergone strict systematic training, so readers are not advised to conduct self-analysis blindly.
However, in fact, isn¡¯t the purpose of publishing a book to allow readers to self-analyze and heal themselves?
Get out of the abyss in your heart by yourself.
What is needed is a strong spiritual pillar.
Children are her biggest spiritual support for Chu Lihua.
Therefore, we must resolve the current predicament as soon as possible.
Can't wait for the children to grow up.
Don't let them live in the shadow of the uncertain role of the father.
The growth of the three little ones must not repeat their own mistakes.
Chu Lihua began to continue looking for books that fit her current state of mind.
Now that my eyesight has recovered a bit, my reading speed has also increased.
In the past, I could read three or five characters at a time, but now, I can read a whole row of characters at a time.
The speed can be said to be more than doubled.
?Because the main focus is on finding and reading books again, the discussion and study on creation has come to an end for the time being.
This made both Qing Yunfei and Meng Xianxiang temporarily heave a sigh of relief.
¡ª¡ª"Yunfei, you are also really persistent. At that time, you agreed to divorce. Now you are so reluctant. Don't tell me that it is for the child, child! What a good excuse."
¡ª¡ª"Xiangzi, her estrangement gradually made me understand some truths. However, before I fully accept her thoughts, I think it will still be subtle and profound."
¡ª¡ª"Haha, good boy. I'll just say it! Then my marriage will not be married until after you." (Remember the website URL: www.hlnovel.com