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At this point, a family war is inevitable. This was obviously a very bad communication, and the reason was that Qing Yunfei only used his own standards to judge the act of buying a cheap air conditioner, but did not pay attention to Chu Lihua's feeling of being hot.
As long as people are attacked, they will be angry, but when the relationship between two people is seriously unbalanced, the weaker party often dare not and cannot express anger, and even become numb after suppressing it for a long time, so that they do not realize their anger at all.
However, stagnation of liver qi will exacerbate vision loss because the liver opens up to the eyes!
Therefore, to be selfish, in fact, I am doing it for my own good.
Before and now, life is much more comfortable.
The eyes are also slowly improving.
Yes, it felt a little slow to Chu Lihua.
Look, this is all going astray.
Chu Lihua patted her forehead helplessly. It can be seen that eyesight is really a ubiquitous "inner demon"!
This is a long process, let's first resolve the inextricable relationship with his parents and Qing Yunfei.
People, as long as there is anger, there must be an outlet for catharsis. If the weaker party cannot express it directly, they will develop a unique way of fighting back;
For example, deliberately procrastinating, making some inexplicable small mistakes, etc., which make the stronger party fly into a rage. This psychological mechanism is called passive aggression.
Chu Lihua seemed to suddenly understand how her procrastination came about.
Isn't it just that when I was a child, I always used this method to be passive aggressive.
Things that parents explain are always procrastinating.
The same is true for Qing Yunfei, sometimes when he is irritated by his unreasonable theories, if he can't quarrel or win the scolding, he can only procrastinate on doing housework.
For example, when taking a shower, mopping the floor and washing clothes, they can be dragged whenever they can, and the bowl is even dragged until the next meal.
This kind of passive aggression often occurs in the workplace, and Chu Lihua recalled that in some autocratic companies, she or her colleagues sometimes made some inexplicable low-level mistakes, such as laziness, forgetting, procrastination, etc.
This is actually a passive attack on the autocratic system.
Psychologists really did a thorough study.
However, is it the conclusion that comes from the result itself, or
God, I have unknowingly imitated Qing Yunfei's distrust of professionals in various industries.
Near ink is black! horrible.
Chu Lihua quickly shook her head, and quickly threw out this thought.
The last case is that you have psychological trauma yourself.
This is what Wu Ming said, Chu Lihua is mentally ill, no, his words are not that hurtful.
What he said was a psychological problem.
Chu Lihua has done careful research on this before.
Object Relations Theory analyzes the two major motivations of people from the perspective of relationship, which are closeness and alienation.
In simple terms, it refers to the motivation we need to get close to people, especially those we like, and the motivation we need to properly distance ourselves from others and reserve our own space.
Therefore, there are two types of basic human trauma, the trauma caused by the unsatisfied need to be close to others and the trauma caused by the unsatisfied need to be alienated from others.
Psychologists say that the former trauma is the trauma of being abandoned, and the latter trauma is the trauma of being swallowed.
Generally speaking, the traumas we encounter as adults are actually traumas experienced in childhood.
For example, when children are young, children generally want to be close to their mothers, but due to various objective reasons, many children experience a major separation from their mothers for weeks or even months before they are 3 years old.
At this age, children are very sensitive to their mother's separation, and they panic especially if their mother disappears, because they feel that mother will never come back.
And the mother is the most important person in the life of the child, so the long-term separation from the mother will cause the child to suffer great pain, and it will become difficult for such a child to get along with others when they grow up.
This is the case for Chu Lihua herself.
Thinking of leaving Xiao Qi in the care of Meng Xianxiang because Qing Yunfei's father was hospitalized and going to the Northeast, Chu Lihua's heart ached like a needle prick.
Xiaoqi, mom is sorry for you.
Fortunately, when she came back, she still raised Xiao Qi as the age before she left according to the knowledge taught in the books.
Therefore, the current Xiao Qi is no different from the twins.
It can be seen that psychologistsThe method is really useful.
Chu Lihua also thought of another situation. Under the patriarchal tradition, daughters are not valued by the family when they are born, and even because they are girls, the mother's status in the family will be lowered, which will be particularly hated by the mother.
Such a girl will easily lose herself when she grows up. In order to get the love of her lover, everything in life will revolve around her lover;
After a long time, it is easy for the lover to feel the very painful trauma of being swallowed up, and even be rejected by others because of this, repeating the pain of being abandoned in childhood again.
Mother seems to be not cherished by grandma and grandpa in childhood, so she has many complaints.
The longest sentence I said was that she was not allowed to go to school.
Perhaps, she doesn't know how to raise children at all. Chu Lihua was referring to the psychological and emotional aspects, of course.
I don't know how to give, but I always hope that the child will automatically get close to her when he grows up.
Psychologically speaking, if such a girl cannot introspect in time and correct her inner trauma, no matter how many love partners she changes, the final emotional state can only be the same result.
Fortunately, what my mother met was my father, that man who was particularly tolerant.
Consider these three reasons why love hurts.
Chu Lihua recalled it again.
In an intimate relationship, because both parties project the image of the perfect lover they imagined in their minds onto each other, they will be very disappointed after the illusion is disillusioned.
So the idea of ??transforming the other party came into being, which resulted in a lot of contradictions and conflicts. In this process, if both parties do not listen to the other party's true heart, and blindly compete for the commanding heights to defeat the other party, then this love will be full of pain.
The last reason is that I have psychological trauma myself, and I can't reflect on myself in time. If I solve my own problems first, the result of love is usually not too good.
Introspection?
Chu Lihua felt that she had introspected herself many times.
It's just that she can analyze the reason based on book knowledge, but she can't resolve the trauma in her heart.
Do you have to find a psychiatrist?
When Chu Lihua thought of this idea, she felt chills all over her body.
Perhaps, if you try more, the effect will definitely get better and better.
Like, eyes.
Just like that dream.
It is self-evident that she cares about her parents.
In life, for the relatives you care about the most, you have to make the greatest effort, so that the family relationship will become more precious.
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