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Chapter 930 Be Your Own Hero

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    Some people find it incredible, "Is it really so amazing?"

    Chu Lihua nodded, "Yes, it is very effective to help people directly overcome problems such as language barriers, facial twitches, stuttering, etc., without letting these problems recur.

    ? As I have just said so much, we must learn to summarize: things that are difficult to change include dieting, drinking, sexual orientation, etc.

    Among the things that are difficult to change, these problems are at the biological level, with powerful and complex biological operating mechanisms, even if you put in a lot of effort, it is difficult to shake them;

    Secondly, we also discussed the more difficult to change, such as anxiety, depression and anger, which have positive meanings;

    Finally, we talked about situations that are easier to change, such as those panic attacks caused by misunderstandings, fear of things that are not dangerous, and so on.

    Therefore, if we are prepared to face different changes and make different efforts, then we can better regulate our expectations and plan better how to implement these changes.  "

    Yaolivas hesitated for a while and said, "However, in this way, it is somewhat contrary to the theory that everything you want to share with us before.

    Just like our eyes, according to what you said, it is at the biological level, which is difficult to change!  "

    Chu Lihua was surprised that she was still lacking in expression. She was silent for a while before she opened her mouth: "Perhaps, what I just said was incorrect. The purpose of my classification is to tell everyone not to be anxious because it is not easy to change, but to learn to respond to symptoms."  .

    For things that are not easy to change, we have to accept this fact and spend more time and effort, rather than just let it go and change.

    It's like a long time ago, let's say hundreds of years ago.  Many people have dreams of becoming talented, but this is a problem at the biological level, and it is difficult to change.

    However, is it still impossible today?  The answer is obvious.

    Because now all technologies are mature and ready.  So the airplane was invented as it should be.  Human beings have realized the dream of flying.

    And what we are doing now has also been improved over time.  We are standing on the shoulders of giants.  Just like now, the airplane has been invented and improved for many years;

    However, some people think that airplanes are not as safe as transportation such as trains and cars.  It's just because we don't understand the meticulous and rigorous process of flying an airplane.

    It is much easier to change the superficial things, but it takes a lot of effort to change the deep things.

    Well, let me give you another example.

    For example, can the problems caused by childhood trauma be changed?  Many adults, once they start to examine their own problems and want to make changes, they tend to look back on their childhood and blame their current misfortunes on their childhood experiences.

    I used to be like this, I always felt that my character and experiences were all due to various misfortunes in my childhood.

    ? For example, going to various foster families, for example, always being ignored by parents

    Ha, maybe I don¡¯t have such a strong contrast as an example.  Let's talk about the daughter of former US President Ronald Reagan.  She is also the most bohemian and deviant of the "first daughters" in American history.

    She once dropped out of school because of hanging out with a rock singer, and also took a nude photo for the US "Playboy" magazine!  In her best-selling book, she blames her parents for her problems.

    She can't forget that her mother slapped her when she was 8 years old.  Because her parents loved each other too much, she didn't get enough love.

    So, how much influence does a person's childhood have on his life?  To what extent can an adult make changes, break free from the shackles of childhood, and grow into who he wants to be?

    For this question, I don't have too many detours.  Childhood encounters, even trauma, have less exaggerated impact on people than we imagined, and many personality traits in adulthood can still be changed.

    There are very rigorous scientific studies that prove that, apart from genes, childhood has no such serious impact on people at all, and even childhood trauma and parenting styles have very little impact on adult life.

    If I had to blame my parents, I could only blame the genes they passed on to me, not the way they raised me.

    Regardless of whether we were raised by teachers with a ruler or brought up by parents referring to parenting books, whether we were fed on time or eaten when we were hungry, we allCan only have a little effect on our personality.

    There is absolutely no need for a ritual of disassociation from our parents, as experts say, to change our lives.  "

    Liu Xingting, who walked in quietly, just heard this passage, and he almost held his breath and stood behind listening.

    Chu Lihua's voice continued, "Some specific factors are very important influencing factors, but in the end it is ourselves who can determine our fate and performance.

    After understanding how easy it is to change a problem, we can make our own decision whether to change it.

    I suggest that if we decide to change, but don't know where to start, then we should choose a problem that bothers you the most and start taking action.  Even the most difficult to change, biological issues.

    The famous Hollywood movie star Angelina Jolie, she is the idol in many people's minds.  In 2013, she made an important decision.

    She sequenced her breast cancer susceptibility genes, brca1 and brca2.

    Why did Angelina have her breast cancer susceptibility gene sequenced?  Because her grandmother, mother and aunt have all suffered from breast and ovarian cancer.

    The test results showed that Angelina had an 87% chance of breast cancer and a 50% chance of ovarian cancer.

    Then, she made a shocking decision and underwent a series of operations including a double mastectomy.

    Angelina Jolie¡¯s decision to have her mammary glands removed was a very big risk, but she believes that she can face the threat of death and make a brave choice because she loves life more than others and cherishes it more  life.

    I share Angelina Jolie's story with you to show that each of us has a different understanding and plan for life. Although genes are at the level that is most difficult for us to change, we still have the opportunity to learn from others.  It challenges.

    People can be called heroes in their own lives as long as they have the courage to put in their best efforts for the things they want to make profound changes in.  "(Remember this site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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