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Chapter 838 Let the Pain Flow

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    Lanzhi repeated it lightly, "If you can't hold on, don't hold on, let your pain flow?"

    Chu Lihua nodded, "Yes, sometimes, don't try to fight against the feeling; otherwise, the feeling will become stronger instead.

    Just like a flowing human river, it cannot be blocked, and only by dredging can it avoid serious floods.  "

    —— "Is unblocking just opening up to others? But, I really can't do it, I can't say it,"

    Lanzhi covered her face with her hands.

    ——"It's better if you can't do it."

    Lanzhi took her hands away from her face at once, looked at Chu Lihua in confusion, "Huh?"

    ——"Yes, you heard it right, it's really good if you can't do it. Even with a professional psychological counselor, unless your counseling relationship is strong enough, it's okay to talk about some unspeakable things.

    If the visitor reveals such things at the beginning of the consultation, the psychological counselor will stop them, because the counseling relationship is not strong enough, he may not be able to bear his pain, and it will bring secondary harm to the visitor.

    Especially at the beginning of the first consultation, some clients may reveal the most painful trauma in their lives, which must be stopped. Usually, these clients are not very protective of themselves.  "

    ——"Ah? What kind of logic is this? Isn't the purpose of seeking a psychological counselor to solve your own pain? If you don't say it, why can't you solve it? Didn't you just say that pain is like a river that can be dredged but not blocked?"

    Lanzhi was completely bewitched by Chu Lihua.

    ——"Lanzhi, don't worry, listen to me slowly. Yes, what I just said may sound contradictory; but, it is not at all.

    It is right to let the pain flow, but whether you are facing the confidant or a psychological counselor, you must establish a solid trust relationship or a consulting relationship before you can let your pain flow between you.

    Otherwise, both parties may not be able to bear it.

    ?Because a strong trust relationship is equivalent to a river’s channel and dams. The dredging of a river does not mean letting it flow as it wants. The premise is that the river channel must be wide enough and the dam must be high enough.

    Otherwise, the wanton flow of the river is a disaster for the river itself and the people around it.  "

    ——"Should the river channel be dug first in the early stage? But the flood has already flooded. Is it too late to dig the river channel at this time?"

    ——"Yes, flood fighting and emergency rescue is to quickly build river embankments instead of digging river channels. Digging river channels is when the situation is better."

    ——"Chuchu, I think I'm confused by what you say, and I don't even know what to do."

    Chu Lihua patted herself on the forehead, "Maybe the more you say it, the more complicated it is. Simply put, no matter how terrible the experience is, if you can bear it and let it flow, then under normal circumstances it will turn into a wonderful experience.  Of course, the premise must be 'bearable'."

    ——"What if you can't bear it?"

    ——"If you try to accept pain, you will find that pain is an experience that is not accepted by us.

    If you want to try to let the pain flow, you must first start with small pains, step by step, let the mind and conscious self gradually experience this method, and then continue to try slowly.

    If you start with major pain at the beginning, it may bring a sense of tearing, which will exceed your ego's ability to bear.

    The natural flow of feelings is that emotions flow like water, and thoughts in the mind, like life, develop naturally without any effort.  "

    —— "Then my big pain should be put on hold first? I can't even ignore it. It's raging in my mind like a devil, and I can't control it."

    ——"Pain, we are either aware of it and close to it, or stay away from it and not aware of it. Therefore, life is to become yourself better, not to become a better self, because you are the best  The self I am talking about here is the true self.

    The real self is also known as the greater self, while the narcissistic self is known as the ego.  Emotional pain is because the narcissism of the ego is hit, so the death instinct is produced, and the death instinct is transferred to the body, which leads to physical pain.

    If you realize your true self and walk out of the narcissistic illusion of the ego, emotional pain and physical pain may disappear.  This is the logic of practice, I just heard it, so I dare not say right or wrong.  "

    —— "However, when you say that, I am even more dizzy."

    Hearing what Lanzhi said, Chu Lihua was so happy.  to??, her focus is now following her.

    ——"About this, I think that my own experience is not perfect now. I told you that it may mislead you even more; I will share with you the true story of a hypnotist made by pain-Erickson  Bar.

    I have been greatly inspired by it myself, and I think you must be too.  There are too many stories about him, so let me start with one iconic event.

    In 1919, Erickson was 17 years old and suffered from polio, which is what we commonly call polio.

    The disease was so severe that he was paralyzed all over his body. Except for his eyes, other parts of his body could not move.

    His mother had three doctors and they all said, 'Your baby won't live until the sun comes up tomorrow morning.  '

    Erickson could hear the doctors, he thought this is too cruel, you can't say such things to a mother, I will not let your "hypnosis" succeed.

    So, Erickson let his mother understand through eye movements: first, he is still conscious; second, he wants his mother to put his bed by the window, so that when the sun rises, it will shine on the window first.  on him.

    The next day, three doctors came. They were all shocked, but they still told the mother that even if your son survived, he would never be able to stand up, and he would be paralyzed for life.

    Erickson made up his mind again not to let the 'hypnosis' of the doctors come true, and he succeeded again.

    Three years later, he not only stood up, but also swam the Mississippi River alone in one summer with a canoe, simple food, camping equipment and a little money.  "

    Lanzhi exclaimed, "My God, how is this possible? Isn't medicine more useful than his ideas?"

    Chu Lihua nodded, "To be honest, at the time, I also thought it was just an accidental miracle, or a misjudgment by the hospital, but it was all true.

    Some things are really so magical.

    Just like the personal matter I told you just now, after I returned to Beijing, I was still like a walking dead, not eating or drinking, very painful.

    Apart from calling his family over and over again every day, he does nothing.  "(Remember this site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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