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Lao Jiu, who joined for the first time, raised a question, "It seems to be true, but even if we know, what should we do? As you said just now, knowing is the benefit of expectation, and doing is the benefit of experience. We If you can't do it, what's the use of knowing more?"
¡ª¡ª"This is a good question. Since reinforcement changes the behavior and cognition of the dogs used for experiments, can we also simulate a reinforcement?
Reinforcement includes not only positive reinforcement but also negative reinforcement.
Positive reinforcement means that when a person exhibits a certain behavior, he gets more of the results he wants, so that the behavior is strengthened.
For example, getting a big bonus makes a person work hard.
And negative reinforcement is when a person exhibits a certain behavior, his unwanted consequences are reduced, thus making the behavior more consolidated.
For example, in order to prevent being deducted from bonuses, one will also work hard.
We can understand that the benefit of positive reinforcement is 'increase happiness', while the benefit of negative reinforcement is 'reduce pain'.
The reason why elephants always involuntarily turn to the benefits of experience is because the benefits of experience shape our behavior through reinforcement, making it difficult for us to change our behavior.
for example. When I first went to work in Beijing, every night after get off work, I would search for famous snack bars near the neighborhood where I lived to eat, and I couldn¡¯t control myself when eating, and couldn¡¯t stop when I was full. I was distressed at the time and wanted to change.
However, this was originally a way for me to release stress. The company I work for is a sales company, and everyone is working hard for performance, because the customer base is basically small business owners, and the time is tight during the day. Relatively free at night.
Therefore, I often have to work overtime until eight or nine in the evening. In addition, I rented a house by myself, and when I got back, the house was empty and meaningless, and looking for food became my only way of entertainment.
Every day after get off work, she would take the subway back to the rental house. When she got to the subway station, she would turn right to go back to the rental house. Turning left is to go to the snack block where people come and go, find a snack bar, and eat while watching the bustling crowd and feeling the fireworks in the downtown area.
Every time I finished eating, when I thought about going back to that empty room, I told myself, why not stay a little longer and eat more, since it would be meaningless to go back anyway. As a result, I was full after eating.
For me, the stimulus is food? No, it's loneliness. This stimulation started when I thought of myself "the house will be empty when I go back" after get off work.
So, what is the behavior corresponding to the stimulus? Not eating, but a series of behaviors including eating, squeezing the subway, going to the snack street, watching the crowd and feeling the smoke.
Food is of course a kind of reinforcement, but the important thing is not the taste, but the process of finding food and the sensory stimulation brought by eating can relieve the pressure and loneliness of being alone in a foreign land.
My binge eating is not only a positive reinforcement for obtaining food, but also a negative reinforcement for avoiding loneliness by eating. This kind of negative reinforcement makes it difficult for me to control myself and make changes. "
When she said this, there were tears in Chu Lihua's eyes, and her voice began to choke.
Then she took a deep breath, let it out slowly, and quickly calmed down again. "Look at me. It's so easy to put yourself in the memory and empathize with it.
Later, I told myself that life is already so difficult, you don't need to completely deny eating, after all, it is also a way to reduce stress. Most importantly, you need to find a healthier alternative, such as running to the gym, joining a book club, watching a movie with friends, etc., and using them instead of eating.
After that, I tried a new method every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, and used the old method of "eating" every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday to see which one felt better.
In the end, I found that going home to read a book and wandering in the ocean of knowledge is better than the experience in the smoky snack street, so I slowly quit the binge eating after get off work.
It is useless to blame ourselves when we fail to change or some bad habits, because our behavior does not exist independently of the environment.
The so-called advantages or disadvantages are actually the process of exchanging information and obtaining feedback between us and the environment. Stimulation and reinforcement is how we connect with our environment.
Knowing this, we can get in touch with the essence of change.
The essence of change is actually to create new experiences and replace old ones with new ones. Creating new experiences requires new behaviors, new feedback, new reinforcements, and experiencing it.
The experience experienced personally has a very high concentration of information, which is very different from what it sounds and seems to be. if onlyImaginary expectations, without the new experiences that come with new behaviors, change is hard to happen.
From this point of view, change does not seem to be difficult, as long as new experiences are created and continuously strengthened. However, things are not that simple.
Most of the time, creating new experiences is not easy. So what can we do?
Use your subconscious mind, if we want to turn our imagination into reality, we should use our subconscious mind to strengthen it.
What is the specific method?
This is a secret that I have missed for a long time before I regained it. Now, I will share it with you. In this way, we can walk together in the future.
It is to use our feelings in reverse, why the imagined expectation experience is untenable, because it is too empty.
So virtual that we don't feel it, it's just in our minds.
If we specifically imagine what kind of feeling we will have after the anticipation experience occurs, we must be meticulous enough to feel it in every sense of the body, close our eyes, and truly feel it.
Then, strengthen it again and again. As if it has already been experienced, when it happened, what kind of feeling did it feel, using our innate advantaged imagination, and substituting ourselves into that world little by little.
Over time, the source of stimulation is formed.
The "real" experience after the virtualization is strengthened will in turn guide us to realize it.
Because in the process of strengthening over and over again, the pleasure has formed a memory in the subconscious.
In this way, we will gradually become the person we really want to be.
If you really can't imagine it because of lack of experience, then find an idol. Whatever kind of person you want to be, take that person as an idol.
Go to know everything about him, and then, replace him with your soul, and feel it again.
Enjoy it once, enjoy it twice
What kind of person you want to be, you have to imitate the real person.
We just want to create that familiarity of things and people that we have never experienced before. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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