-
Add Bookmark | Recommend this book | Back to the book page | My bookshelf | Mobile Reading
Free Web Novel,Novel online - All in hlnovel.com -> Prose -> The Half-Blind Woman s Hero s Journey Chapter 740 Study Together
Previous page Return to Catalog Next page
- ?
These are just learned, Chu Lihua said while recalling; if you can’t remember, quickly look down at your phone.
Teaching is the best learning, although Qing Yunfei doesn't necessarily want to teach him these things by himself.
However, repeating it to him in this way is also good for your own memory and digestion. Turn this knowledge into knowledge that can be extracted in your mind at any time.
Fortunately, as long as Qing Yunfei hears something he doesn't understand, he usually doesn't interrupt; he only speaks out when he has doubts, which is most conducive to Chu Lihua's memory.
——"Let me tell you this, let me give you a simple example.
There was a college student who did not find a job after graduation and went to work as a worker in a lumber field in a remote mountainous area.
He worked hard and took the postgraduate entrance examination every year, but the schools he took the examination were different every year. Peking University, Renmin University, and Jilin University are changing every year.
He seems to study very hard, but his academic performance has not risen but has fallen, and the score of the key subject English is getting lower every year.
Why is this happening? Because he actually has no confidence in the postgraduate entrance examination. He just uses the postgraduate entrance examination to let himself and the people around him know that he still has self-motivation and lofty ideals.
However, he did not analyze the situation clearly and apply for the school according to his strength.
Instead, he applied impractically to prestigious schools and majors every year, and he had no way to review; he didn't even check what the reference books for the major he applied for this year were.
This is a typical d cognition, because you want what you lack in your heart, and you will act according to your own imagination, not reality. Because self-confidence is needed, he tells others and himself that he can do it. "
——"Aren't you the kind of person you used to be?"
——"It's true that I used to be similar to this, busy aimlessly, running around, thinking that I was working hard. In fact, I was completely dawdling, muddling along, and pretending to be working hard.
When I first went to Beijing, I was very ambitious. But later, decadent and depraved, drifting with the tide. I slowly lost myself.
When I woke up, I quickly picked up the book and studied hard.
do you know? There is one most important reason why I left Wenshan and went to Beijing. At that time, I was looking at the store and reading books when I was bored.
? Seeing it makes my blood boil, and I always want to venture into the big world outside. That's why I left when I had an excuse. "
——"But, what does this have to do with the psychology you are studying now?"
Qing Yunfei brought Chu Lihua, who was immersed in memories, back to reality.
——"It's related, it's too related. If I have been so aggressive, the current me will not be the current me."
Chu Lihua regretted deeply, she went to Beijing to pursue her dream, but in the end, from Lin Huaming's departure, to Wu Ming, to little by little, unknowingly, she deviated farther and farther from her original track.
man! Sure enough, I should work hard when it's time to fight hard. In the blink of an eye, five years of living in Beijing are over.
Except for Qing Yunfei, there was nothing left, which should make him physically and mentally exhausted.
——"What did you say? It's the same tongue twister."
——"I just explained to you what d cognition is, now, I will tell you about b cognition, and you will understand.
The little boy in the fable "The Emperor's New Clothes" that we all heard when we were young, saw the emperor without clothes. This is the most classic cognition.
People with cognition b will not change their original understanding of things for any reason. Therefore, it can be said that cognition is the cornerstone of autonomous personality. "
—— "So, we all lose the most authentic part in the process of growing up. Usually this is called maturity. Didn't you just say that there are fourteen kinds? This is the one you said. Go on. "
Qing Yunfei seemed to understand something thoughtfully.
——"It seems that you are also very happy to learn new things, but you don't want to read books by yourself. This is also very good, I have learned it. I will tell you again. If you understand it, it proves that I understand it thoroughly."
Chu Lihua felt that Qing Yunfei was the one who could save her. However, it is I who have to learn first, and then it is just right to have such a student.
Seeing Qing Yunfei nodding, Chu Lihua looked down at the phone and found the place just mentioned; then, she briefly recalled it and continued talking.
——"The second thing is to be tolerant but jealous.
People with this personality trait can see both sides of things:
?On the one hand, they deeply understand the fragility of human nature and are highly tolerant; on the other hand, they are highly sensitive and resistant to the evil in human nature.
For example, Wang Xiaobo, his works describe evil and human weakness so thoroughly that it seems that there is no room for ridicule. But at the same time, there is infinite tolerance in his works.
As for the third, it is to be completely open to your own experience.
People with this personality trait are open to their own inner experience and express their emotions and thoughts naturally. They are frank, natural, unconventional, and act according to their heart.
The fourth type is problem-centered, not self-centered.
People with this personality trait work to work, while those who are not self-actualizing work to live.
?Problem-centered people are very devoted and selfless when doing things, and are attracted by the cause itself, rather than the opposite, taking the by-products of the cause, such as money, power, fame and fortune, as the main goal.
Non-self-actualizing people are just the opposite. They may work hard, but they are not pursuing the career itself, but for the by-products, such as controlling others, winning socioeconomic status, and even abnormally demanding that others obey themselves.
At work, autonomous people always have new ideas, and innovation seems to always come at hand. This is also because they have b cognition, not d cognition.
The fifth type is a detached and independent personality.
Specifically, it refers to having a strong need to be alone and independent, to make judgments for oneself, and not to depend on others.
Sixth, do not believe in authority and culture.
In other words, it means that authority and culture have no pressure on them, they do not follow the trend, and they are not restricted by the cultural environment and authority to make passive choices.
Seventh, have fresh and timeless appreciation.
People with this personality trait seem to have no "aesthetic fatigue", can experience and appreciate all kinds of things they encounter in their lives with awe, surprise and joy, and frequently produce "peak experiences".
Peak experience, a term coined by Maslow in his hierarchy of needs, is the highest human need.
The transcendent experience of human beings after transcending self-realization emphasizes the psychologically subjective feeling.
Peak experience refers to the short-term, open-minded, and blissful experience that people feel when they achieve self-realization after their basic needs are satisfied in the process of pursuing self-realization. "(Remember this site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
- Previous pageCatalogNext page