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Chapter 726 It's Easiest to Start From Yourself

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    After this analysis, Chu Lihua remembered when she first became a supervisor; when she was worried that she would not be able to manage employees, she read a related book, which contained such a passage:

    A good manager should be like a gardener, good at letting his subordinates develop their strengths instead of picking on their faults.  What people need most is positive feedback rather than negative feedback.

    If he did the right thing, you should encourage him to do the same next time; as for what he did wrong, there is really no need for you to do psychoanalysis for him with a problem.

    Going back to the issue of mainstream psychoanalytic treatment, you can understand that understanding the problem does not mean solving the problem. Solving the problem does not necessarily require understanding the problem, and may not even require you to look directly at the problem.

    It's like learning to ride a bicycle, not knowing how the bicycle works.

    It's just a psychological consultation, why do you have to cry a lot?  Some scars don't need to be uncovered at all.

    Even if you don't look back on your past life, people can change. Things are always changing, and every step is a new start.

    This is like playing Go. Your task is to make the current situation better, instead of asking how you got to this situation.

    Looking back now, the relationship with Qing Yunfei is like this, and it can't be changed without accountability.  Instead, think about how to solve the current problem.

    "How many partners have spent their whole lives as bad judges for each other!"

    When these words suddenly came out of her mind, Chu Lihua was startled.

    Turning his head to look at Qing Yunfei next to him, he seems to have felt his deliberate indifference recently, leading the group and her as if nothing had happened during the day; at night, the two of them are like roommates who rent together, they are deliberately alienated from each other.

    Turning her head, Chu Lihua decided to have a good talk with Qing Yunfei.  However, you need to think about how to talk about it.

    Influenced by the barrel theory since childhood, we spend too much time correcting mistakes and making up for shortcomings, but what can really help us achieve ourselves is that we carry forward our own highlights.

    Just like in daily management work, instead of trying to shape a person into something he doesn't like, it is better to find a way to ignite his small universe, because the essence of management is to inspire goodwill.

    In this case, let Qing Yunfei use his strengths as much as possible in the future, and there is no need to be serious with him on his weaknesses.

    However, I still have to tell him about my own feelings.

    ——"Qing Yunfei, let's talk."

    Chu Lihua walked directly to Qing Yunfei's side and looked down at her.

    Qing Yunfei slowly raised his head, glanced at Chu Lihua, and uttered a word, "Okay."

    ——"Then, put down your phone, let's have a heart-to-heart chat."

    Before Chu Lihua finished speaking, Qing Yunfei threw the phone aside.

    In the past, Chu Lihua would definitely feel that he was impatient.  But now, holding back the discomfort in her heart, she said softly, "We have come to this point, to be honest, I am really sad.

    Once, needless to say, after the quarrel between my mother and me on the day before we got married; I have always regarded you as the most important person in this world to me.  I also feel that God treats me well and sent you who loves me so much to save me.

    However, this myth has been disillusioned a long time ago, and it was so disillusioned that I was caught off guard and panicked.  I never imagined that my husband, who had vowed to swear at me, would do it to me himself one day.

    At this moment, I feel like my sky is falling down.  I want to keep the beauty that was once, I think, it was beautiful before marriage.  So I reacted quickly, divorced, divorced, I can get back that brother Yunfei who loves me and loves me.  "

    Chu Lihua stopped to think about what to say next, but Qing Yunfei was deeply shocked.

    ——"I'm sorry, it was indeed my fault that day."

    ——"Then why are you suddenly so indifferent?"

    Chu Lihua couldn't hold back for a moment, and blurted out the knots in her heart these days.

    ——"I am also chilled! No matter how good I did before, if there is a slight bad thing, you will blurt out the divorce immediately. I feel that my previous sacrifices are not worth it."

    ——"Actually, I've been trying to start over with you without any grievances recently, because I really can't bear to part with you.

    It's just that as soon as I get close to you, the picture of that day will appear in my mind, it is like a sharp knife, piercing deeply into my heart.

    The pain was so bad that I couldn't breathe.  I had to stay away from you again.

    Can you promise me that in the future, no matter whatDon't be so indifferent to me, okay?

    I know that you are a person who keeps what you say, as long as you agree, I can let go of the grudges in my heart.  "

    ——"Then you promise me, don't talk about divorce every now and then?"

    Chu Lihua froze for a moment, did not speak, and threw herself into Qing Yunfei's arms.

    I don't know if it's because the winter in Xishuangbanna is relatively warm or for other reasons, Chu Lihua felt that her body was heating up at this moment.

    Following Qing Yunfei's embrace, the frozen heart slowly cracked, and the ice layer was slowly breaking.

    In the days that followed, it seemed that the feeling of the past had returned.

    Originally only planned to play the Xishuangbanna and Kunming teams, after Chu Lihua inadvertently mentioned Manshi Tengchong Ruili during the chat, he decided to add another itinerary.

    ? Customized group has this advantage, you can do whatever you want.

    ? Chu Lihua stayed up all night to formulate a new plan, which was well received by everyone.

    She also learned a new set of sleep methods from "Sleep Revolution", so that she can still keep full of energy even in the case of insufficient sleep.

    Chu Lihua also shared this method with Qing Yunfei, r90 sleep cycle method.

    The so-called "r90" means to plan sleep in a cycle of 90 minutes, rather than when we usually look at the time, every hour.

    Generally speaking, adults need 4-5 sleep cycles per day, converted to 90 minutes per cycle, which is about 6-7.5 hours.

    To implement the specific time allocation, first determine what time you usually wake up or still get up, and use this time as your daily wake-up time.  Then use 90 minutes as a cycle to calculate your sleep time.

    For example, if Qing Yunfei needs to sleep for 5 sleep cycles, which is 7.5 hours, and the wake-up time is 6:30 in the morning, then he should be ready to go to bed at 11:00 in the evening.

    But when Chu Lihua stays up late, it is 12:30. If she wakes up at 6:30, she can still sleep for 4 complete sleep cycles, and it will not be so strenuous to get up.  Even, if the time is later, you can postpone going to bed at two o'clock, so that you sleep for 4.5 hours, and you can complete 3 complete sleep cycles.

    Chu Lihua should have questioned it before, if she only sleeps for 3-4 cycles every night, that is, 4.5-6 hours, how can it be possible?  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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