Chu Lihua could only eat more by herself, and then began to systematically find some related books to read.
When she was thinking about how long she could live with her current savings, the previous clients introduced them to another group of clients.
This time, we are going to Xishuangbanna.
The tour guide certificate I took before did not pass. It was not a written test, but an oral test, and it was ruined by my eyesight.
Originally, Chu Lihua planned to give up, but she loved this career so much; therefore, when she received the call, she decided to go on without hesitation. Even if it is "operating without a license".
And in the absence of other assistants for the time being, Qing Yunfei still had to go with him.
Chu Lihua tried hard to regard him as her work partner.
The refunded medicines arrived by post on the day they left, and they only refunded 500 yuan, saying that the rest was the cost, and when the medicines were sold, they would be refunded.
It turns out that it's not just a half discount!
Chu Lihua wanted Qing Yunfei to call his mother to talk about it, and asked her to help find the doctor and talk about it. Chu Lihua even thought up the words and sentences and wrote them down and sent them to Qing Yunfei.
However, he still said that Chu Lihua is more familiar with - I don't want them to worry.
Only then did Chu Lihua realize that Qing Yunfei could be stubborn.
Trying to suppress that anger, Chu Lihua arranged the itinerary for the next day. She knew that all of this still depended on herself.
At first, she didn't understand why she was so sure that Qing Yunfei could give her happiness.
Now I seem to understand that sentence a little bit-never marry someone who will only treat you well.
yes! Apart from this, Chu Lihua couldn't think of anything else.
Moreover, this is good, and it is based on when he is in a good mood.
Once he was in a bad mood, Chu Lihua would immediately become a stranger from his world.
Qing Yunfei has an impulsive personality, likes to shirk responsibility, and does not have a plan in doing things, and if there is a problem, he will rely on Chu Lihua;
This kind of character is suitable for going to work. He can do whatever people ask him to do, and it depends on whether he is in a good mood. It is not suitable for working alone. All of these need to be worried about by Chu Lihua.
So Qing Yunfei is a passerby who travels all the way? Or, probably, a pair of tempered eyes.
This night, Chu Lihua re-examined the relationship between Qing Yunfei and her.
Even if, being nice to her was mostly requested by Chu Lihua.
Such as cooking, such as drying hair, such as drying clothes
In a daze, Chu Lihua fell asleep.
The next day, the official trip, everything went according to plan, relatively smooth.
This trip, thirteen people, also made them a small profit.
The two of them also have a code name in the small circle of customers - Qingchu Xunxinyou.
When returning to the rental house to rest, Chu Lihua asked her mother if her hands were okay, and learned that she was still sore every night and couldn't sleep well.
Chu Lihua thought again, the money for the medicines over there will not be refunded, and this side is still not cured, so it is better to ask for the medicine back and let her mother take it.
Chu Lihua shared his thoughts with Qing Yunfei, and he asked Chu Lihua to tell others by himself.
Chu Lihua still had a headache, how to tell her mother, at that time, Qing Yunfei swore, "We are all acquaintances, I will definitely not make things difficult, and I will definitely retire."
Now
Chu Lihua feels that she is testing herself almost every day.
Prepared to be scolded, Chu Lihua shared her thoughts with her mother.
Sure enough, the nagging session started over there, Chu Lihua touched the phone to the side, and picked it up again when there was no sound over there.
The doctor was not very easy to talk to, Chu Lihua kept texting and making phone calls; when she called, people were unwilling to answer her calls, so she had to pay for it.
Afterwards, Chu Lihua learned from a book on persuasion that the best time to persuade others is when they have just finished eating when the information is quite asymmetric. Because I feel better then.
[During the communication process, you should pay special attention to the attitude of the other party, and choose when the other party is in a good mood to persuade him. Because most people are not in the mood to listen to you when they are in a bad mood. ¡¿
The first thing Chu Lihua has to do is to persuade Qing Yunfei to study with her. So, she started to study these.
The reason why she suddenly "woke up" was because Chu Lihua really had no other choice.
She forgot where she heard such a passage, but she really felt enlightened.
"Let's take an unusual solution to a problem.
Our usual approach to solving problems is to discover the problem first, then analyze the cause of the problem, find out what is the root cause behind it, and then solve it fundamentally.
However, this method may not work well.
For example, Freud's psychoanalytic therapy.
If you feel that you have psychological problems, and you may be shy and not generous in doing things, you should go to a psychiatrist.
A psychiatrist will repeatedly help you recall your past-have you ever been traumatized? Were you abused as a child? What is your family of origin like?
You stayed with this psychiatrist like this for five years, you spent 50,000 yuan, and cried many times in the middle, and finally you found the root cause of the disease: it was all your mother's fault.
Then what can you do? Can you relive your childhood? Finding the root of the disease does not mean changing the root of the disease, let alone changing your symptoms.
What's more, going back like this, maybe all the problems point to the same reason. For example, some people joked that the most fundamental reason is that they have no money and are ugly
For a root cause like this, let¡¯s talk about a sentence called tbu¡ª¡ªtrue but useless in English, and ¡°ran and x¡± in Chinese. "
Childhood has already happened anyway, and the marriage with Qing Yunfei is already a fact, so now I can only think of a solution. Thoughts like complaining are pointless.
At that time, someone recommended a book called "Transient" by Heath. Now, it is renamed "Behavioral Design: Zero-Cost Change".
Chu Lihua quickly placed an order online. She had too much experience before and bought books that were inconvenient to carry. Therefore, Chu Lihua bought e-books.
After reading it, Chu Lihua has a new perspective to look at the problem.
For example, in psychotherapy, one often asks about childhood trauma. This is the practice of the Freudian psychoanalysis school. Many psychiatrists are still using it, but psychologists are actually very disgusted, because psychoanalysis methods are not reliable. From the experimental test.
Now there is still a school of psychotherapy called "solution-focused brief therapy (sfbt for short)", which is just the opposite of psychoanalysis.
This therapy was created in the 1970s, and now there are a large number of papers studying it. It is said that the founder was inspired by playing golf. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com