An interesting event during the "Double Festival" period of the Mid-Autumn Festival and National Day in 2020 is that our family of three went out for dinner.
Due to the situation of the new crown pneumonia epidemic this year, after careful consideration, we chose to improve the food in a restaurant within the unit, which can also be regarded as celebrating this rare "double festival".
?Unexpectedly, a small dinner party between the family caught my father on a whim and gave me a vivid lesson in table manners!
? It is estimated that I have been working for a year, and I am still in the general office where I often deal with people. My father simply taught on the spot, talking while eating, trying to let me understand the most basic table manners as soon as possible.
"Let me tell you in advance, when you are formally eating with others, you dare not talk while chewing something in your mouth, it is very impolite!" My father quickly set up this major premise when he opened his mouth
"A question, what should you do if there is a dish that you like very, very much during a dinner party?"
"Well, turn to me"
"It's not only as simple as turning it around, because the purpose of turning it around is to eat more, so you need to make more. But in the process of serving dishes, it will be difficult to avoid falling, reducing the soup, and staining the tablecloth. It will be annoying. So when you transfer that dish to yourself, you can put your cutlery close to the plate to pick up the food, try to avoid falling
This teaching did not focus on the basic seating and the order of serving dishes, but went straight to these issues that are often overlooked, but they should not be underestimated.
Maybe my father thought it a bit complicated, but in fact, what he said made sense. After all, having dinner with others is a matter of bonding and friendship. You don¡¯t dare to just bury your head in eating. You also need to be polite and follow table manners in order to make everyone eat happily
"Ask you, if the tableware is placed a little blurry, you can't tell whether the cup on the left is yours or the cup on the right? What should you do?"
"Um, it's not that complicated, just take one, it doesn't matter if you make a mistake, right?"
"No, just ask the waiter if you don't understand! Don't use it self-righteously, it's impolite!"
"Ask you, what should you do if you don't know how to eat a dish that looks a little strange?"
"Um, don't move yet, look at other people"
"The best way is to ask the waiter quietly. For example, some food requires gloves. If you eat it stupidly, it is very bad."
"Let me ask you again, if there are bones in a dish, and you have eaten the edible part, what should you do with the rest?"
"It's not easy, throw it off the dinner plate or find an ashtray"
"No, you have to pay attention to observation. The tableware in restaurants usually comes with a plate and bowl. If you can't find an ashtray, the plate is usually used to hold the garbage. You can pile it on a special plate. corner, but don¡¯t dare to pile it up too much to make it look ugly, if necessary, ask the waiter to change it for you, okay?¡±
"Remember, don't stand up and pick up food for another person across from one person! Including your usual pouring of water, if you want to walk in front of others, you are young, so you should do more errands."
"Don't judge the quality of a dish at will. Because everyone has their own preferences. You don't like spicy noodles, but others do. So you can't belittle the food that others like to eat. It's very disrespectful. It is a serious faux pas!"
In this way, a family dinner ended in the on-site education of the father "rambling". Although I was very impatient at first, I thought it was just a meal, and I could come up with so many tricks!
But gradually, the more I listened, the more interested I became. Because my dad really pointed out the common problems I had at dinner parties, and even some details that I didn't even realize. He listed and explained them one by one, and based on his past experience, he made the most suitable answer.
Food is the most important thing for the people. As the country that knows how to eat the most in the world, China not only has attractive delicacies with different characteristics, but also has formed a very systematic and comprehensive dining table culture during the evolution of thousands of years, such as seating, side dishes, Adding water and so on has its own particularity.
Therefore, observing etiquette at dinner parties is not only a kind of practice, but also a kind of exercise, and it is also a respect for others. As my father often said: Striving to be the best of myself and not causing trouble to them is a kind of education and kindness.
TrueIn most cases, we really can't control others! But as long as we manage ourselves well, have a clear conscience, and treat others with courtesy, we are also practicing social morality and making our own efforts to form a good fashion of civilization and courtesy.
Look, a small dining table, a family dinner, seems to be trivial, but there is so much knowledge hidden behind it. As the saying goes: Details determine success or failure. In fact, every little thing in life requires us to pay attention to observation and study hard.
? October 10, 2020 (Remember the website URL: www.hlnovel.com