There is a class of beautiful women who can never find a good husband. Because according to their mate selection criteria, the boys in reality are not satisfactory. There is a girl named Jin Yan who is charming by nature, charming in appearance, and has a bit of rare aura. She herself once said that a woman like her should naturally find a good man as she pleases, and live a romantic and comfortable life as she pleases.
When she reached the age of falling in love, she first found a handsome, tall and extremely handsome young man. Every weekend, he wears a helmet and rides a brand-new Suzuki, and she smiles astride the backseat. With the roar of the motorcycle and the long hair fluttering, the two of them stole the limelight and dominated the scene. They were truly a match made in heaven. However, it didn't take long for Jinyan to tire of him. This handsome young man can only give her a visual enjoyment. But he has no depth of thought, lacks humor in language, and has no ambitions. Jin Yan believes that following him has no future and no interest, so she breaks up with him.
The second boyfriend is a writer. The writer has extraordinary wisdom in his head, his melancholy eyes reveal a kind of depth, and his words are so full of philosophy. He has published works with millions of words, and won numerous awards, big and small. Jin Yan was deeply impressed by his talent. She often shows off the writer's works to the little sisters: "Look, this is what my one wrote." That kind of complacent look, as if she is the writer herself. However, when the little sisters clamored for her to bring the "dear" to have a look, she shied away on the pretext that the writer was too busy. In fact, it's not because the writer is too busy, but because she feels "not able to do it". He is really ugly, not to mention, and he is even on the same level as himself. Every time Jin Yan thinks of this, she feels annoyed: "With my outstanding looks, I can't find someone who makes people laugh." She decisively ended her love relationship with the writer.
The third love really made Jin Yan fascinated for a while. The moment she shook hands with him, she was stunned, oh my god, isn't he the Prince Charming in my dream? Tall, steady and reserved demeanor, slow speech, and that generous smile. After contacting him, I learned that the young man was born in a Kochi family and graduated from a prestigious university. He needed knowledge, self-cultivation, good looks, and a bright future. Jin Yan decided to love him only in this life. But not long after, during a heart-to-heart conversation, Jin Yan learned that the young man had a first love, and they broke up due to various reasons. Now Jin Yan's psychology was out of balance again, and her inexplicable jealousy made her think angrily: "So you gave your love to others, I don't care for you who have loved others and been loved by others, 'second-hand goods' Well, goodbye!"
Afterwards, Jin Yan did not know how many friends she talked with, but she still chose and eliminated, and chose and eliminated again. The time she had been in contact with the man became shorter and shorter, so that in the end, as long as she met him once, she gave him a certain "unqualified" conclusion: "This guy is too stingy", "Looks like a fool" , "Insufficient upbringing", "Lack of tenderness", "Look at that arrogance" When someone once asked Jin Yan what her criteria for choosing a mate were, Jin Yan did not shy away from summarizing: a man should be gentle but not weak, Chic but not coquettish, deep but not rigid, smart but not glib, steady but lively, humorous but not clumsy, capable but not arrogant, strong but not stubborn, brave but not reckless
There may be "good men" who meet such standards, but if she wants to find them, I'm afraid it will take a lifetime of effort. When she turned twenty-eight, Jin Yan became a little anxious when she saw that everyone around her had become a family. But whenever someone introduces her a partner, she always compares it with the previous one, and feels that the gap is too big. She didn't want to search more and more, so she failed again and again. Many people envy beautiful girls who have full freedom of choice when choosing a mate, but they don't know that some beautiful girls lose their "freedom" after having this full choice. There are too many goals to choose, and in the end it is equivalent to no goals to choose. Is it really the word "beautiful" that caused these women's decision-making dilemma?
Before making a choice, beauties should probably ask themselves seriously: What do I really need?
You must know that life cannot allow one person to take advantage of all the benefits, you can only pick what you need most.
Third, not being loved by others.
Ping is almost a girl full of advantages. She is beautiful, has a good figure, a good family background, and a diploma from a prestigious university. No matter when and where, she should naturally become the moon surrounded by stars. But such a beautiful woman with excellent conditions has repeatedly suffered setbacks in love. It's not that she can't find the one she loves, but that the one she loves dare not love her forever.
In college, she and a boy really fell in love. However, after this male college student kept hearing other people's advice to him¡ª"After marrying her, you will have a rival in love when you are old", "A girl who is too beautiful is not safe", and "Beauty is the hardest to hold your heart", he began to waver. Thinking that he is not famous and not outstanding, His family background is far from being comparable to that of the other party. He is determined to end this "unsuitable" marriage. He told her that he can't stand the blow of getting her and then losing her. It is better to give up now than not to have her forever. No matter how she swears , No matter how to refute his "skepticism", he still never looked back.
Later, Ping quietly fell in love with a simple but talented farm boy. But he still likes her silently because she is too beautiful, but he dare not approach her, let alone fall in love with her. For him, falling in love with a pretty girl is precarious and too risky
After graduating from work, Ping Jingren hooked up and fell in love with someone else. That man fell in love with Ping sincerely, and Ping was very satisfied with him. However, seeing men constantly writing love letters, sending invitations, and courting Ping, that man's heart is not sure whether it is sour or bitter or jealous, in short, he feels very uncomfortable. Finally one day, he said to Ping, "If I live with you for the rest of my life, I will be entangled in the competition of love all my life, and it will be too tiring. I really can't stand it, let's break up."
Ping wants to cry but has no tears. I am innocent, so is it a mistake to look beautiful? In real life, people often regard beauty as an important condition for pursuing the opposite sex. Beautiful women often have many suitors. But for some young men who are not bad in all aspects and have strong self-esteem, they may avoid beautiful women. In their hearts, there is often some kind of prejudice against beautiful women, such as the representative one: "theory of infidelity". There is a saying in Italy: "A beautiful woman is not loyal, but a loyal man is not beautiful." This sentence is of course a slander against beautiful women. Of course there are those who are beautiful but not chaste, but there are also those who are beautiful and loyal. But in reality, there are too many men who hold this prejudice.
"Theory of Uneasiness". It is not difficult to understand this point when we listen to the "high opinions" of the three young men. The first person said: "I don't want to look for a partner who is too beautiful, too beautiful will cause trouble."; the second said: "We dare not marry a pretty girl, because I am worried that if I marry her, once I am not by her side, she will be hard to resist. The suitors attack frequently."; the third said more bluntly: "I don't want to find a beautiful wife, if a guy who is better than us in all aspects and bold enough to poach our beautiful wife away, we Can you bear the pain and give up your love?"
"The theory of disappointment". A male college student shook his head at a beautiful woman: "Pretty girls often have too high aspirations for a happy life. I don't think I will find them. I can't make her happy." Another said it was quite "real" : "Beautiful daughters-in-law are mostly well-dressed. With our monthly salary, we can't even afford a bottle of Jixiandi perfume."
"Arrogance". This is the stereotype of the personality of beautiful women. A college student asserted at a symposium on love: "Women are too beautiful, and they are generally self-willed, which will bring troubles to the family"; Beautiful women will use their pretty faces to boss you around and treat you like a slave¡±; another man even said in a tone of disdain when he broke up with his beautiful girlfriend: ¡°I find beautiful girls very proud, arrogant, and superior. , like a princess. She is always self-centered and competitive in everything, as if all the men in the world want to court her."
I read a report saying that there are many beautiful single women in Germany. Some people in Germany believe that beautiful women are the most stupid and the most indecent. It is also said that beauty means seduction and sin. A best-selling novel even goes so far as to say: "Beauty is the most shameless thing God has given to mankind." Because of the various falsehoods imposed on these women, their activities are in some ways restricted. And for some honest men, they dare not approach those beautiful women at all. This kind of man has a psychological fear of beautiful women. A beautiful woman said helplessly: "Many men are afraid of women like me because they are afraid that I will ask too much of them."
? I once went to a marriage agency in Beijing to investigate. According to the organizers, in their marriage agency, the most difficult to find partners are those who are first-class women and younger men. The so-called Ding men are those with the worst conditions among men, while the so-called Jia women are those with the best conditions. "How come the beautiful women with the best conditions can't find a partner?" "No one dares to pursue them", the organizer gave such an answer to my question.
I remember reading an article titled "What Girls Say to Boys". The article said: If I were a beautiful girl, I would have many boyfriends because I am beautiful. Don't judge me for being frivolous, and don't Afraid of your competitors, your confidence and hard work will win my heart. Don't be intimidated by me because I am beautiful, just appreciate it from a distance, act and attract me with your calmness. You may be a "toad" eating "swan meat". I don't know if this is a kind of "call" from a beautiful girl, or a kind of "regret" revealed? (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com)??Maybe it is a "toad" that eats "swan meat". I don't know if this is a kind of "call" from a beautiful girl, or a kind of "regret" revealed? (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com