Chen Kai also made a speech. He mainly talked about his views on love from the perspective of single men. In the end, he said that his previous criterion for choosing a mate was to first require girls to be beautiful, but now it has changed, and he still pays more attention to the connotation of girls. Only now did everyone know that Chen Kai is still single. Someone joked on the spot that there are so many beauties today, so don't let this opportunity pass. Everyone burst into laughter. The mischievous Chen Zixuan even stuck out her tongue to Chen Kai.
Following Chen Kai's topic, the columnist Ouyang Junyu's speech was very targeted. He said:
Nowadays, when men choose a mate, whether it is a "private action" or a grandiose "public declaration", there is one thing that stands above thousands of conditions: beautiful and beautiful. If you browse through the marriage advertisements in the newspapers, you will find that most of the men's courtship statements contain words such as "beautiful", "beautiful", "elegant", or at least a minimum condition of "good looks".
The "market" of beautiful women in the "big love market" is always unique and unparalleled. Women with poor looks and ordinary looks are very envious of them; beautiful women have such a large team of suitors, they must be free to pick up a good man, and their love life is even more vigorous and sweet.
However, this is not the case, at least not for a considerable number of beauties. There are many beautiful women who are unfortunate in love, and the result of this "unfortunate" is precisely because of the word "beautiful".
You may have doubts: how could it be? Let me give you a few examples here. There are roughly the following situations:
First of all, no one is cute.
Someone once made the following "definition" of "handsome men" and "beautiful women": "A handsome man may not necessarily be the idol worshiped by all women, but a beautiful woman can be the goal pursued by all men." However, it is not necessary All men, as long as there are some men, chasing and beating a certain beauty around them, it is enough to make this beauty like a frightened bird, avoid and reject the wave after wave of "love" coming.
Xiaoxue is a beautiful girl, no adjectives can describe her beauty.
When I was still in middle school, because she was pretty, some male classmates asked her for photos, and some male classmates invited her to hang out with her, and some boys who were familiar with her even wrote love letters to her madly. Very good male classmate. On the way to and from school, boys always stopped her halfway and proposed to make friends and fall in love with her. For this reason, her father escorted her to school early in the morning, and the teacher had to accompany her home after class, using the stalwart of an adult to prevent childish disrespect and defend her 16-year-old blooming season.
What annoyed her even more was that there was a very infatuated and persistent boy in the class who vowed in public that he would pursue her. From then on, as soon as school was over, he would wait for her at the door; whenever he was free, he would go to her house to "visit"; he would not look at the teacher in class, but only stared at her; after class, he would not play with other students, but always surrounded her change. The beautiful word "beautiful" leaves a terrible shadow on the heart of the girl Xiaoxue. In a blink of an eye, Xiaoxue went to college, and she thought that now she could be at peace and get rid of those childish boys. In this civilized institution of higher learning, she can calm down and study hard without being disturbed. But she was wrong. College years are the peak time for young people to choose a spouse. During self-study, she will receive an "invitation letter" to "go out and talk alone"; when there is a meeting in the class, a lot of boys will come to inform her; The words "professional" and "internal details"; on the stone bench on the campus, before you read a few words, there is a guarantee that a boy will come to chat with her; Come and invite me to dance, beg for the favor to go to the movies Xiaoxue is really exhausted physically and mentally, and overwhelmed. In Xiaoxue's mind, all the men who try their best to approach her are because they are obsessed with her beauty, and they all want to talk to her, but these make her unable to live harmoniously and peacefully. Xiaoxue feels that her beauty is innate, and she has nothing to be proud of. She feels that if a man really loves himself, he should love his talent and character. It's a pity that almost all the boys who tried to get close to her didn't mention her talent and character. Some even said: "You are so good-looking, you don't need to study hard at all." So she has nothing to do with these boys who want to get along with her. impression.
When she graduated from university and went to work, she was still bombarded by love. And she is very disgusted with those who are so courteous. Although she also tried to socialize with a few of them, she immediately discovered that they were superficial and unable to communicate deeply. She became more and more ashamed. Many people introduced partners to her, but she shook her head, saying that she was afraid of entering the "siege". , Those men who were rejected by her, many of them said bad things about her, called her "sour grapes that can't be eaten", and even deliberately??Hard her. This made her feel that she had not misread their faces. All men who try to approach her will immediately arouse her vigilance, and she can no longer establish normal communication with men, which means that she cannot find a man worthy of her love, so she will close her love forever. door.
Being beautiful makes her the target that men are constantly pursuing, and she has no choice but to constantly and passively cope with the pursuit of the world around her. This consumed her time and her soul, suppressed the young girl's heart, and deprived her of the opportunity to choose actively. "Girls who are most suitable for love are often the most indifferent to love in the end." Is this a common tragedy of beautiful women?
The shepherdess Marcella in "Don Quixote" has a peerless appearance, but she would rather stay with the mountains and forests than give up love. One day, an infatuated poet committed suicide because he couldn't get her love, so everyone blamed her for being hard-hearted. Marcela appeared at the funeral, and she defended herself in this way: "Beauty is not my choice. Does a man who is born with beauty have to return the same love after being loved? If I do it for you I love you because I am beautiful, but I am ugly, but you must love me. It sounds a bit strange. Even if the two parties have the same beauty, it cannot be said that they have the same interests. Besides, sometimes beauty can only please Eyes, but do not inspire love."
From the life experience of Xiaoxue and Marcella, people have a feeling: it is pitiful not to be loved by others, but it is even more sad to be loved by no one. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com