In my memory, my mother and grandmother have all been to Beijing. At that time, the tourism industry was not as developed as it is now. It was not a common thing to be able to travel to Beijing at that time. Therefore, until the moment before her death, grandma was still complacent about this matter. If you have the opportunity, you will take your close relatives out to see and see. From this, it is not difficult to see how much your father attaches importance to family affection.
It can be said that before the uncle failed to live independently, the support and care given by his father absolutely surpassed that of his grandfather. Later, after my uncle graduated from high school, my father also brought him out and taught him hand in hand. Although my father brought out many people, he didn't really teach many people himself. It can be said that it was because of family affection that my father devoted countless efforts to my uncle.
Perhaps it was because my father was older and was doing well outside, so my grandfather always helped my uncle in dealing with the relationship between brothers. Originally, all the houses were built by my father. Under the strong request of my grandfather, four new brick and tile houses were built and became my uncle's wedding house. Later, when the family separated, the new house was naturally given to my uncle, but our family had only three old houses with a much different location. Since then, when my grandfather was alive, he stayed at my uncle's house and helped him wholeheartedly. All labor income (accompanied by the reform and development, people's living standards continue to improve, the income from killing pigs has gradually increased, coupled with the annual income from the ginkgo tree, after the separation, the grandfather can indeed be busy every year The money) goes to my uncle, and at the same time, I ask for a certain amount of money and food from my family every year as my father¡¯s alimony. Grandpa's injustice has actually planted a huge hidden danger for the brothers to turn against each other later.
If grandpa is the type who can't move while lying down, then it is estimated that there will be no fighting situation. The mother is a typical rural woman, and of course she cannot be a magnanimous person. Perhaps my father could bear this extremely unfair treatment of grandpa, but my mother absolutely couldn't bear it. Although my father is away almost all year round, every time I go home during the Spring Festival, my mother will inevitably complain in front of my father, saying that my grandfather has many faults. At the beginning, my father just asked my mother to bear it, saying that grandpa is the elder after all, so let him go.
Several years after my father and uncle separated, although the two families lived in peace, in fact, conflicts were accumulating day by day. A lie repeated many times becomes the truth. What's more, what my mother said is the truth! As time goes by and the number of times increases, father will inevitably have opinions on grandpa. Opinions have accumulated a lot, and one day they will completely explode.
At that time, I was still young, so now I can't remember what the fuse was. Anyway, one day, my father and grandpa had a falling out. Both of them were hot-tempered, and they were angry, so the father and son fought each other that time. Since then, the relationship with my uncle's family has dropped to freezing point. I hardly speak at ordinary times.
When my grandfather was still alive, during the Spring Festival, we (including my parents) would still visit my uncle's house to pay New Year's greetings. Moreover, the annual alimony, the father never refused to break. In the words of my father, no matter how bad he (grandpa) is, he is still his father after all.
But for some reason, the uncle at that time was full of resentment towards his father. Even during the Spring Festival, the uncle's family would never set foot in our house, even including the uncle's two sons.
Originally they were brothers, but due to the injustice of their grandfather, they completely cut off all contact with each other, and they are almost like strangers to each other. That should be the grayest time for our family (extended family). There are also persuasions from enthusiastic people, but how can the equally stubborn father and uncle accept other people's opinions easily?
I can't remember exactly when I got stuck, but in my impression, the relationship with my uncle's family has never been very good. Grandpa is a traditional person. When he was dying, he put down everything and called his father. After all, the father is the eldest son. Although the father had resentment in his heart, the one who lay down was grandpa after all. The father who received the news ran back thousands of miles without saying a word, and then did his filial piety to grandpa's bedside. In the last month of my grandfather, my father was by his side almost all the time.
When we separated, although my house was three old houses in a poor location, it was the ancestral house after all. It is the traditional concept of the Chinese nation that fallen leaves return to their roots. Therefore, Grandpa's final last words were to place his coffin in the ancestral house, which is my home, before the burial. Although the grandfather helped the youngest son, in his mind, he still believed in his eldest son's ability to handle affairs. Grandpa finally handed over his funeral affairs to his father. At the last moment, the father and son finally let go of all prejudices. Now it is impossible to know what grandpa thought at that time, but I guess, grandpa should leave with a smile on his face.
?My father is a person who keeps his promises. Grandpa's funeral is completely handled by his father, and he strictly abides by his last words.
In fact, my mother was full of unwillingness. Oh, when you were alive, you helped the little ones. When he was dying, he remembered the big one. We didn't get the slightest benefit from you, now that you're dead, why should we make arrangements for the funeral? The benefits don't come to our minds, but we have to do the things that cost money and effort. Why? Why? However, the mother was not able to hold back the father after all.
Afterwards, instead of feeling at a disadvantage, my father was extremely complacent. In his words, although the old man doted on the young one all his life, he still had to rely on me, the big one. In his mind, he did not regard his father's funeral affairs as a burden, but regarded it as an honor in his life. This is the father. A father who values ??family affection above all else.
Grandpa passed away, and my uncle's family still stayed behind closed doors during the Spring Festival. The father is the eldest, so there is no reason to give New Year greetings to the younger brother first. Since then, my father never stepped into my uncle's house again. But even so, at first my father asked me and my sister to go to my uncle's house to pay New Year's greetings. However, it is not only my uncle and aunt who visit my house for New Year's greetings, but also his two children.
Strictly speaking, our branch is a direct descendant, so the family tree of our family is in our family. It's just lost due to poor storage. Although there is no ancestral hall, the tablets of our ancestors have always been enshrined in our home. Up to now, my cousin will come to our house to worship the ancestors every Spring Festival. But after the grandfather passed away, the uncle only kept the grandfather at home. Father once said, is it possible that the only ancestor in his eyes is his father? It is not difficult to see from this that after the grandfather passed away, the father still had a lot of prejudice against the uncle. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com