The death of an old man is a very important matter on our side.
Send the elderly, you must be sincere! And the stay time cannot be deliberately shortened.
According to tradition, after the death of the elderly, whether in a coffin or cremation, they must "stay" at home for three days. In memory of the elderly.
During these three days, there must be children under the knees to guard the spirit of the old man.
And tonight will be the first night.
The countryside is no better than a big city, and it is brightly lit at night; here, when it is 7-8 o'clock, it is almost impossible to see the road when going out, and we all stay at home.
After some arrangements, Grandpa and Master Yao, Father and Uncle Yao, Mother and Father Yao, arranged vigils for three nights.
Grandpa, as the eldest son of great-grandmother, had to take the lead; so the mourning hall was set up in the lobby room of my house, and the banquet was also arranged in the yard of my house. On the first night, grandpa came to watch the night.
After dinner, everyone sat down to drink tea and chat; those who like to play cards found their opponents early and sat around together;
What we want is this kind of lively atmosphere! Everyone has experienced this kind of situation, and they know how to help the "host family". Neighbors help each other. Later, when encountering things, others can really help, and my own help at the beginning can also be exchanged for the other party's response when encountering things.
Between neighbors, it is in this kind of mutual help that the relationship is sublimated and the relationship is closer.
To be honest, the relationship between the neighbors in our village is stronger than that of some distant relatives.
Whenever there is something to do, just say hello, whether it is selling pigs or killing pigs, or harvesting crops, as long as you ask, the other party will definitely come, and you can do things beautifully; the host only needs to provide a hot meal, what's more , After helping, I went home to eat by myself. The euphemistic name is: all eat, all the same!
Once you come and go, you are like relatives to each other;
I have liked to greet these neighbors since I was a child. No matter how far away they are, as long as my voice can reach the other party¡¯s ears, I will definitely greet them at the first time;
And my good habits, while satisfying everyone, gave me the label of a good doll;
As the night deepens, the temperature begins to drop. Although it is autumn, the temperature in the village is lower;
One after another, people who couldn't stand it left in the middle of the night. Before they left, they still looked sorry to the host, as if the cold on their bodies had already left them;
Mom and grandma mixed some leftover dishes from dinner, poured them into the pot, and heated them up; I was in charge of lighting the fire;
Originally, I was asked to rest early, but I wanted to do something for my great-grandmother. Although I couldn't do anything, I was in a panic and couldn't let myself stop;
Dad has promised to help me ask the teacher for leave tomorrow, so I don¡¯t have to go to school, so I have to do something else;
? At twelve o'clock in the middle of the night, dinner will be served on time;
Put the hot leftovers into the pots (we like to use big pots for leftovers here, one or two pots per table, convenient and delicious), then put together a few side dishes, put them on 2 tables, pour a few Drinking a glass of wine can keep you well fed on this cold night;
Everyone put down what they were doing, sat around and had supper together;
The function of supper is more to increase the heat and draw the distance between everyone, and it does not have the sense of pleasure and coquettish chat like usual supper;
After eating supper, a group of people left again, and the only ones left were grandpa and dad who were playing mahjong at the only table outside, and mom and grandma were washing the dishes;
On the other hand, I don't feel sleepy at all at this time;
But staying up all night is impossible, because parents don't allow it. After all, we all know that staying up late hurts the liver, and it hurts the body at a young age. What can we do in the future?
In desperation, I had to go back to the house to sleep
"Boom~boom~boom" the desolate mourning sounded again, but this time I heard it more clearly, as if it was right next to my ear
After getting up and changing my clothes, I realized that it was only a little past 6 o'clock in the morning.
After going out, there is no excitement of yesterday, only the dark sky, with a few dim lights
"Let's go, go back to sleep" The last table of mahjong was finally over, and the mahjong players were already showing signs of fatigue. After rejecting my mother's intention to stay for breakfast, they left.
"Changyou, go to sleep, wait for your relatives to come and get up early to greet everyone," my mother said to my father.
And when grandpa kept watch until after 3 o'clock, he was called to sleep by his father. The reason was that he was too old to stay up late; while father kept watch until dawn;
the"Huh~huh~" Within a few minutes, the father who had just entered the room was snoring loudly. It seemed that he was really tired from staying up all night;
"Ren Tao, did you sleep well? Come with me and call everyone over for breakfast"
"Sleep well." After finishing speaking, he went out with his mother and invited everyone from door to door to have breakfast.
The custom here, whether it is a funeral or a happy event, is usually three days. Including breakfast, lunch and dinner, three meals a day, the host must prepare them, whether they eat or not, they must be fully prepared, this is the rule!
After walking around the forest for a while, just as I got home, people were already coming over.
Breakfast was prepared by grandma and mother together, and it is said that they got up at 5 o'clock and started cooking. And when I was sleeping last night, they were still busy washing the dishes, and a few hours later, they got up again to make breakfast, which was really hard work.
Breakfast is very simple, just porridge with a few common side dishes, and a pot of hot dishes left over from yesterday;
Although it is simple, the neighbors have given enough face to come here; one is convenient, you don¡¯t have to do it yourself, and the other is to give the host¡¯s face, after all, every household does business like this
Holding the bowl, I took two casual bites and then gave up; the porridge was like chewing wax in my mouth, and the hodgepodge that I usually regard as a masterpiece has lost its beautiful taste today;
"Ren Tao, eat more, you haven't eaten for two meals, see if your body can't bear it," mother cared.
"Come on, have some food. Your Zuzu likes you the most, and she doesn't want to see you sad" Grandma comforted me while serving me food.
Yes, my great-grandmother is gone, and I can't come back
But I can't let her down!
Picking up the bowl again, I forced myself to take a few more bites; although I had no appetite and couldn't force myself to think how delicious the food was, my obsession with my great-grandmother drove me to pick and pull the food in the bowl again and again
After the meal, everyone gradually dispersed again, and went home to cook the chickens, ducks, pigs and dogs at home; when the cooking was finished, they turned back again to see if they could help.
And the relatives who got the news soon rushed over one after another. First, they burned paper for the great-grandmother. After talking about it, they chatted with their parents, grandparents, and wanted to know more about why the great-grandmother left so suddenly (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com