"You can only understand what caused your anger when you had a conflict with the other party, and why you took such behavior to get angry.
At the same time, it can also be used to identify why the other party is angry, and understand the real needs behind each other's quarrel, so as to promote mutual understanding and promote the solution of the problem. "
So that's the case, before, I quarreled with my partner or my family, but I just thought of the other party's incomprehension, and didn't think about solving the problem at all.
Especially for the other party, as long as the other party does not bow his head and admit his mistakes during the quarrel, then he will sulk in his heart and think about all the bad things about the other party in the past, so the other party will become more and more serious in the quarrels with himself. The more alienated.
Later, when encountering conflicts, I like cold wars. I always think that the other party is a roundworm in my heart. Needless to say, he can understand your thoughts.
? When two people had an argument, as soon as they got angry, they would pack their bags and leave. For a few hours, no matter how much Wu Ming begged, he would tell over and over again that he had misjudged the person, and refused to communicate with each other without saying anything specific. Even if they reconciled in the end, they still put on a bad face.
Wu Ming wanted to use communication to solve the problem, but he always avoided it.
This kind of quarrel pattern, even if it is reconciled once or twice, after a long time, those real conflicts that have not surfaced will become the last straw that crushes the relationship.
The flow of the relationship is mutual, and others cannot guess what you don't want to say.
Only when you express yourself sincerely, will the other party know whether behind your anger, grievance, and sadness is the desire to be respected, recognized, loved, or something else.
What's more, use your own standards to measure, demand and transform the other party. In the end, the relationship is getting worse and worse. Until the day his parents took him away.
Although, he has always been very kind to himself, but if he hadn't been like that before, Wu Ming would definitely not have left like this. Finally, after a lot of trouble, he got in touch with him, and he just said a word - "I don't love you gone."
At this moment, Chu Lihua realized that the problem was not Wu Ming's parents, but herself.
I finally learned how to love, and I hope it's not too late.
It is said that the food eaten outside is unhealthy, Chu Lihua has the idea of ??cooking a meal by herself.
I asked Qing Yunfei when I was on the subway, but he hasn't arrived home yet.
Now there is no one in the company, so when it arrives at 6:00, everyone leaves work on time.
There is still time to cook a meal, but, thinking about her cooking skills, Chu Lihua feels that it may be counterproductive.
I am not good at frying and cooking.
The only thing I can do is stew soup, cook porridge and cook hot pot.
Qing Yunfei is from the Northeast, he doesn't seem to be very good at spicy food, and the clear soup hot pot doesn't seem to be delicious either!
Although the person had already strolled in the supermarket, the shopping cart that Chu Lihua was pushing was empty, and nothing was put in it.
If you don¡¯t even know how By the way, I still remember that when I opened a mobile phone store in Wenshan Heren, there was a restaurant opposite Liuyang Steamed Vegetable Restaurant. The dishes there were light and refreshing, and it was said that the nutritional value was well preserved.
Why don't you try steamed vegetables yourself?
This is the best choice for Chu Lihua, who can't grasp the timing well and can't distinguish between raw and cooked colors.
That's it.
There is a dish in my memory that seems to be steamed eggplant with garlic. If you like to eat potatoes, let¡¯s have steamed potatoes with chopped peppers. If it succeeds this time, you will definitely have a fish head with chopped peppers next time.
The next step is to look up recipes on the Internet to find out what raw materials are needed.
Once the shopping cart was put away, I squatted down and looked down to check my phone.
Steamed eggplant with minced garlic, ingredients 500 grams of eggplant, 20 grams of minced garlic.
Appropriate amount of seasoning vegetable oil, salt, monosodium glutamate, sugar, sesame oil, green onion, and minced fresh red pepper.
Steamed potatoes with chopped peppers, 350 grams of potatoes, 3 preserved eggs, 20 grams of chopped peppers.
Appropriate amount of seasoning vegetable oil, salt, monosodium glutamate, chopped green onion, sesame oil, and minced garlic.
Well, remember the general idea, get up, push the shopping cart and start shopping.
Chu Lihua bought raw materials such as eggplant, onion, ginger and garlic, a bottle of chopped peppers, red peppers, potatoes, preserved eggs, etc., and left.
When at the gate of the community, Chu Lihua met Qing Yunfei.
¡ª¡ª"Chef Chu said he would cook for me tonight, what did you buy? I am a person who loves everything!"
¡ª¡ª"Huh? All I bought were vegetarian dishes. I thought I would eat lighter at night, or I would go toHow about some meat in the small supermarket in the area? "
Chu Lihua was a little embarrassed, but then she thought that she didn't know how to cook, and continued, "However, I don't know how to cook. If you don't know how to cook, then maybe"
¡ª¡ª"Who said I can't do it anymore, are you kidding me! Meng Fanyu will eat his own stewed meat at home, can I still? My cooking skills are definitely better than yours."
¡ª¡ª"It's really interesting. You haven't seen me cook, so you know that your cooking skills are better than mine?"
Chu Lihua didn't care.
¡ª¡ª"My mother let me watch in the kitchen when I was young, and I know how to cook home-cooked dishes. She said that a man must learn to cook."
Qing Yunfei was very proud.
¡ª¡ª"Your mother is a good mother-in-law in China! She trained her son's cooking skills in advance."
¡ª¡ª"That is, my mother said that women are not born to do housework. Men are also part of the family. Except for my father, everyone in our old Qing family is good at cooking, especially my uncle and Fourth Uncle, your culinary skills are outstanding."
Qing Yunfei's tone was full of pride.
Having said that, just as he walked to the door of the unit, Qing Yunfei opened the door with the access control, and pulled Chu Lihua to go in first.
¡ª¡ª"At that time, I was cooking my steamed vegetables at home, you go to buy some meat?"
Chu Lihua asked while going up the stairs.
¡ª¡ª"No, next time, that's it for today. I'll try your handicraft first."
After entering the room, Qing Yunfei went upstairs to change clothes. Chu Lihua quickly put the bought dishes on the table in the living room, took out her mobile phone and memorized the recipes, otherwise it would be too embarrassing to read while cooking.
"Recipe of Steamed Eggplant with Garlic
1 Wash the eggplant, cut it in the middle, and put it on a plate.
2 Pour vegetable oil into the pot and heat it up, add minced garlic, salt, monosodium glutamate, sugar, and minced fresh red pepper and fry until fragrant to form minced garlic juice.
3 Pour the minced garlic juice over the eggplant, put it in a steamer, steam for 10 minutes on high heat, and then take it out.
4 Sprinkle chopped green onion and drizzle with sesame oil.
? Nutrition Tips
Eggplant contains vitamin E, which has the functions of preventing bleeding and anti-aging, and has a positive effect on delaying human aging.
Production Tips
Eggplant is easy to oxidize after being cut, so it can be soaked in salt water to maintain its original color. "
Chu Lihua read it quickly, trying to keep it in her mind.
However, after reading it three times, Qing Yunfei's footsteps sounded on the stairs.
Chu Lihua's first reaction was to run back to the house and close the door. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com