Qing Yunfei was right in saying something, all of this is really self-inflicted!
People are too narcissistic, and narcissism can easily become the enemy of happiness.
Chu Lihua suddenly felt as if she had been stripped naked and thrown on the crowded street.
Consciously, I always feel that I am trying to pursue happiness, but subconsciously, I always create various obstacles for myself.
The story in the book just now hides at least two layers of narcissism:
The first layer of narcissism is, I'm right. So, when I say what is going on, I will push things in that direction, and use this to prove that what I said is right.
For this reason, the lady who talked about today turned a good man into a domestic violence man, so that the couple and bystanders can see that this man is morally wrong, and the problems in their relationship are all It was caused by the man, but she herself was innocent.
The second level of narcissism is that I am better than you. In the relationship, I want such a narcissism, which is called I am higher than you. Therefore, the pattern of my status being high and your status being low makes me feel at ease.
Things have to go the way I want them to.
It's horrible, this is exactly
Chu Lihua knows that she has always had a thought in her heart, because I am not tall, and at the same time, my eyes are not good.
Therefore, I must be the best in other places, at least, in our family, I am the best.
Everything must be developed according to my requirements.
Therefore, Qing Yunfei's income has shrunk severely. Therefore, Chu Lihua sometimes felt that Qing Yunfei didn't want to make progress.
It must be my casual words that slowly changed everything.
For example, she would comfort Qing Yunfei, "It's okay, my income today is only so much, no matter how much, it's not as much as yours."
Then Qing Yunfei would be speechless, "Everyone is more than you, but you are more than me here."
At this moment, in fact, Qing Yunfei was thinking normally; however, he was misinterpreted by Chu Lihua himself, look, he is a man after all, I want more face, he earns more than me.
However, if this is the case, my advantage is gone.
As a result, the income of the two became lower and lower.
Of course, there are many such examples in life. Chu Lihua always feels that Qing Yunfei cooks for herself. After a long time, she will definitely not be happy.
Chu Lihua had to separate the things she used, such as towels and bath towels, and use her own.
If Qing Yunfei accidentally used it wrongly, Chu Lihua would definitely yell in disgust.
This sounds like a cleanliness addiction, but the signal sent to Qing Yunfei is that it is impossible for us to be so close.
So, Qing Yunfei also began to ask for a quilt cover, and then Chu Lihua was not happy.
It's terrifying to think about it carefully!
This is too
All of this for half a day is my own fault!
How could a good man who was pursued by everyone come into my hands for a while, and then slowly become the ex whom I detested before, the ex-ex now.
The root of everything is yourself!
Is God being unfair to me? Yes! Because I love you so much!
It's a pity that you didn't play these good cards well yourself!
In fact, many times, we often feel that a certain statement or a certain thing makes sense, but it is very difficult to be truly touched.
Being touched means that a rational knowledge is combined with one's own experience and becomes one's own.
The essence of the secret is feeling, and feeling is experience.
Another point is that my favorite word is depression, and I always feel that I should have mild depression; in this way, I should become the object of sympathy and pity for others.
The psychological mechanism of depression is like a filter, which makes it easy for me to ignore the positive and happy news, and instead pay attention to the negative and pessimistic bad news. This proves that my depression is justified.
Chu Lihua didn't dare to look any further, she was afraid that her heart would not be able to bear the naked truth.
When all other people's faults were her own, Chu Lihua suddenly didn't dare to face herself.
Qing Yunfei, I'm sorry for you, and I also blamed you wrongly.
Recalling that every time Qing Yunfei went out to buy vegetables and fruits, he would bring one or two things he liked, no matter how expensive the price was, he would buy it back if he bought less.
Conversely, if?What he likes to eat depends on the price. If it is expensive, he will be reluctant to buy it.
No matter from the details, it can be seen that Qing Yunfei is a good man, why does he always get confused sometimes?
Chu Lihua felt that she was responsible for this issue.
Similarly, there is still a reason, I understand all the reasons, but I just don¡¯t know how to use it, it¡¯s useless.
Then to understand those principles thoroughly, Chu Lihua took a deep breath, and took another deep breath.
The psychological mechanism of depression, which can be called selective attention, is a key mechanism for self-fulfilling prophecy.
When "I" sends out a prophecy, in order to maintain the narcissism of "I am right", "I" will focus on the information that conforms to the prophecy of "I", and those that do not conform to the prophecy of "I" The information is ignored by "I". In this way, the world seen by "I" conforms to the prophecy of "I".
Awareness of your own self-fulfilling prophecy requires experience to help you discover it. Wanting to change this self-fulfilling prophecy also requires experience.
Isn't this the feeling mentioned in the secret!
This reminded Chu Lihua that when she was in junior high school, her grades were always 11-19.
Suddenly in the third year of junior high school (they were in the last class of the four-year junior high school.). A new class was opened - chemistry.
This chemistry teacher is a very attractive female teacher, she always likes to ask Chu Lihua to answer questions. Under normal circumstances, Chu Lihua is not very willing to attend classes. Even if she sits in the first row, she can't see the blackboard clearly. This is why she attends classes, so this is why.
In this way, to Chu Lihua, it was like a book without words.
But Chu Lihua was always called to answer questions, because she was sitting under the teacher's nose, and this new teacher didn't know anything about Chu Lihua's situation.
Every time Chu Lihua couldn't answer, the whole class laughed at her.
And the chemistry teacher will always say, "In the future, you will read the blackboard carefully and listen to the lectures in class."
With too many times, Chu Lihua can only preview the chemistry class in advance and work hard to attend the class.
She found that the chemistry teacher didn't attend the class because of this.
Instead, he spelled while speaking, even emphasizing the upper and lower case of chemical symbols.
This immediately aroused Chu Lihua's interest. From then on, she looked forward to taking chemistry class very much.
There must be rewards for hard work. In the midterm exam, Chu Lihua scored full marks in chemistry. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com