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Chapter 577 Are you really moaning for nothing?

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    ——"Sister Jiao, I haven't experienced this after all, so I don't understand much. I have to forward the notes to you according to the script. I believe that, as a child's parent, you must understand the meaning better."

    ——"Lihua, thank you so much. I read it, and it feels like a revelation. It's just that it's a bit difficult to use it all at once. I can't help it, my memory is not good. With your ingenuity, you can help me  Summarize it? Only then can I implement it better. Thank you very much!"

    ——"Uh, I'm sorry, Sister Jiao, I was too lazy, so I copied it directly. I should consider your feelings. I'm really sorry for such a long speech. I'll summarize it and send it to you later."

    Chu Lihua was a little embarrassed, and swipe up, only to find that her news had filled the screen with a long story.

    ——"Don't say that, I'm too stupid to let you sum it up. Besides, if you just send me one, two, three, and four, I really don't necessarily understand it. Such details are just right.  I want it. Lihua, thank you very much! By the way, what do you want to ask?"

    Chu Lihua didn't ask immediately, but summed it up carefully, and only after sending it over did she express her own question——

    "How parents avoid conflict with their children:

    First, children lack abilities and skills and need to be "correctly encouraged" to evaluate people and things separately. It doesn't matter if things are not done well. Courage and hard work must be affirmed.

    Second, after the ability is improved, it is necessary to let the child know the boundaries of behavior.  If the child violates the rules, the parents must implement the rules with a firm attitude to the end, but they cannot force the children to accept the rules with a strong attitude.

    Third, in addition to respecting the rules, the rights of others must also be respected.  Parents should respect their children's rights, but parents are not their children's servants. Children should respect their parents and everyone around them. This is the two-way equality of rights.

    After the above three methods are effective, an atmosphere of cooperation is created.

    In the last method, parents should let their children understand that cooperation is what the team needs for themselves.  Cooperation is not about compromise and obedience, but about working harmoniously with everyone towards a common goal.  "

    ——"Sister Jiao, I want to ask about the previous commission. I don't know if it's convenient for Fang to tell me a thing or two.

    I still have some notes here to understand the psychological mechanism behind their wrong words and deeds from the perspective of children. I will organize them later and send them to you.  "

    ——"I reported last week's commission and the previous commission, and only a part of it arrived before get off work today, and the headquarters said that it will be fully credited tomorrow.

    However, because of the relationship between Liu Yujiao and Mrs. Wang, the withdrawals of the fourth group and the sixth group under their husband and wife's name were withdrawn by them when they first arrived.

    I read the report and it has your name on it.  It is estimated that tomorrow morning, it should be sent to you.

    If not, you'd better ask them together with a few commissioned ones.  Don't be too impulsive.  "

    Chu Lihua did not expect that Elder Sister Jiao would know about her "impulsive" conflict with Liu Yujiao before. It seems that even if there are two or three hundred people in the company, something bad will spread and the whole company will know.

    Moreover, Sister Jiao is considered to be the chief financial officer, and the things she can contact and understand are of course incomparable to others.

    Chu Lihua was not in a hurry to reply, but was busy organizing the notes on the child's psychology and sending them to Sister Jiao.

    Originally, the main purpose of attending classes was to understand the psychological relationship between parents and children.  So slowly heal yourself.  Didn't expect it to have other uses.

    It is always right to learn more.

    ——"Children's natural need is to go all out to find a sense of belonging. Parents are children's sense of belonging throughout their lives.

    The sense of belonging is the feeling of being recognized and accepted by others or groups.  The process of children's growth is the process of exploring the unknown world.  There are many confusions, failures and dangers in this process.

    He needs to constantly add courage to overcome many difficulties.  The sense of belonging is the source of courage and self-confidence.

    Children with a sense of belonging will face setbacks and failures calmly and take them lightly.  Children who don't have a sense of belonging are generally not confident. They will seek the approval of others to make up for their lack of heart.  "

    In the process of checking whether there are any unreasonable sentences in it, Chu Lihua inevitably sighed slightly in her heart after reading this.

    I am a child who has no sense of belonging, so I have always been unconfident.  Eager to make up for the lack of heart through the approval of others.

    To save myself, it seems?It's as simple as untying the knot.

    Shaking his head, he temporarily dismissed the thought.  Chu Lihua was busy continuing to tidy up, and needed to strike while the iron was hot.

    ——"Four wrong behaviors and coping methods that children tend to appear when they seek a sense of belonging.

    The first is "seeking excessive attention".  Such children are usually very "sticky".

    For children who seek excessive attention, give them space and time for self-approval, and don't give children excessive protection.

    For example, the family is on vacation in the countryside, the father is fishing by the lake, and the mother is cooking in the kitchen.  The little girl was playing outside by herself, and she always begged her mother to take her for a walk after a while.

    But when the little girl begged her mother, she didn't go into the kitchen to her mother, but stood outside the window and called her mother again and again.  Mother had no choice but to put down the work in her hand and take a walk with her.

    This clingy little girl is constantly asking adults to pay attention to herself at all times, using this method to gain a sense of security and belonging.  She thinks she is worthless without the close attention of adults.

    Every time the little girl's call gets a response from her mother, it is a successful confirmation: "Well, my mother is paying attention to me".  However, the mother's practice of putting down her work and walking with her child will not give her daughter a real sense of belonging and self-confidence.

    Instead, the mother's compromise formed a "wall" around the little girl, and this "wall" blocked the girl from finding her own self-worth independently.  "

    Chu Lihua couldn't help recalling this situation.  How was he treated as a child?

    Before his father had an accident, he was well-behaved and sensible, and tried his best to help the family with more work, just to get the attention of his parents.

    However, the parents' thoughts are not on themselves at all, they just think about how much they can harvest this year and how much money they can make.

    Later, I was fostered by various relatives.  The days when my mother came to see me were numbered.  However, every time, her focus is not on herself.  Instead, he was busy maintaining relationships with those relatives.

    Is it because my background is not good, so I am not qualified to be hypocritical?

    Not everyone says that the so-called mental illness is nothing but the moaning of the rich.  But is this really the case?  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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