Chu Lihua was confused by what Lin Hailong said, and she didn't know how to be alone, so it happened suddenly.
Perhaps, this is what people say about the personality of children from single-parent families.
Thinking of this, Chu Lihua was not so angry with Lin Hailong, on the contrary, she was a little sympathetic.
Most of the children's personalities are caused intentionally or unintentionally by their parents. They are "victims"!
¡ª¡ª"Lin Hailong, are you in a bad mood today?"
After Chu Lihua figured it out, of course she didn't care about it anymore.
¡ª¡ª"Yes! If the client I made an appointment with today doesn't come tomorrow, I plan to resign. This job is really not suitable for me. I was tricked by you, a little liar."
Lin Hailong's tone softened slightly.
¡ª¡ª"Lihua, then I'll be leaving first, you should go back early and take care of Yuyu."
Lin Lei, who was left on the sidelines, spoke first after Lin Hailong finished speaking¡ª¡ª
"okay."
¡ª¡ª"If you want to eat anything, just send me a message. I will bring it over tomorrow."
After Chu Lihua nodded, Lin Lei left¡ª¡ª
"who is he?"
Lin Hailong asked Chu Lihua after Lin Lei left.
¡ª¡ª"My friend's friend, I have to go back to take care of my friend, see you later."
After Chu Lihua finished speaking, she hurried back.
Leaving Lin Hailong at a loss, what's going on? Didn't it ease up just now? Why are you suddenly not waiting to see me again?
After Chu Lihua went back, Yu Xiaqiu asked her what she and Lin Lei talked about.
Chu Lihua just casually said nothing, let's talk about it after you recover.
After thinking about it, Chu Lihua added, "I ran into a colleague from my company when I came back, and we chatted for a while, so there was a delay."
¡ª¡ª"Chuchu, actually, I'm not as fragile as you think. I really appreciate this incident. But, why don't we talk about my current situation."
¡ª¡ª"Yuyu, when I said that about Lin Lei just now, I was also worried about you. I hope you don't blame me."
Chu Lihua felt that it was better to talk about some things in advance.
¡ª¡ª"How could it be? I know that your starting point is for my own good."
¡ª¡ª"No, I am also for your children! I am actually very afraid that they will not get your wholehearted love."
Chu Lihua felt that her words were not convincing enough. She thought about it, combined with the audio she listened to, rewarded her thoughts and continued.
¡ª¡ª"Moreover, during the prenatal period and early childhood, a boy is mainly influenced by his mother. If he cannot break through this influence, the mother's influence will fill his body and mind.
He will deeply feel the strength and importance of his mother. Under the influence of his mother, he is likely to become an emotional liar and flirt in the future.
But he can't grow into a man who cherishes women and maintains long-term partnerships, can't be a good father, and can't maintain an equal relationship between men and women.
He must give up the most primitive and intimate attachment to his mother and accept the influence of his father.
Therefore, you are right to let the father of the child participate more in his growth now. However, this is not enough to get along with the father alone.
It is best for parents to accompany their children to grow up together. "
Chu Lihua borrowed the "Oedipus complex", but at the same time she mirrored Lin Lei.
Chu Lihua believed that Yu Xiaqiu must know that Lin Lei was raised by her mother.
It's not that Chu Lihua has prejudices against single-parent children, but that she wants Yu Xiaqiu to come out first.
¡ª¡ª"Chuchu, what fallacies are you talking about?"
Yu Xiaqiu couldn't deny Chu Lihua's remarks.
¡ª¡ª"Yuyu, don't you believe what I said, I have a scientific basis for it.
Hu Shenzhi, a master of psychology, said that before the age of three, children have no gender awareness. In general, both boys and girls have the closest relationship with their mothers.
But from around the age of three, children have gender awareness and will increasingly desire to be intimate with parents of the opposite sex, and this desire reaches its peak around the age of five.
If the relationship between parents is stable and harmonious, the child's desire to be close to parents of the opposite sex will gradually decrease, and eventually he will become closer to parents of the same sex.
Boys should belong to their fathers, and girls should belong to their mothers. The German family therapy master Hellinger summed up this, they should first return to the parents of the opposite sex.Get closer and absorb the power of the opposite sex from this relationship, realize your own attraction to the opposite sex, and at the same time experience the attraction of the opposite sex to him.
Then, the boy returns to the male world and becomes a man, and the girl returns to the female world and becomes a woman. Only in this way can their psychology be healthier, and the world will be more harmonious. "
¡ª¡ª"For a very young child, as long as there is one person who loves him, he is satisfied. But a three-year-old child will long to have the complete love of his parents at the same time, that is to say, he longs for the love of his parents of the same sex, and also Longing for the love of opposite sex parents.
"If one is missing, he will create another image."
This is also researched by psychologists. "
¡ª¡ª"I thought, maybe I'm too selfish. I can't let my children suffer like I did before."
I don't know if psychologists have shown that it is useful, or Yu Xiaqiu suddenly figured it out. However, hear this sentence. Chu Lihua was happy in her heart.
She felt that she could definitely save Yu Xiaqiu and her family.
The atmosphere between the two girlfriends seems to be a lot more harmonious.
They began to look forward to it again, and they would go there to play together in the future.
At this time, Chu Lihua's phone rang.
It was Qing Yunfei calling.
¡ª¡ª"Got it? Do you like it?"
Chu Lihua picked it up happily.
¡ª¡ª"It's okay, why, you disappeared for a few days, where did you go?"
¡ª¡ª"Haha, I just want to disappear for a few days to see how many people will care about me! Obviously, some people are!"
Chu Lihua couldn't help teasing Qing Yunfei, true or false.
¡ª¡ª"I thought you died of illness."
Qing Yunfei never had good things to say.
¡ª¡ª"You don't have to feel sorry for me when I die of illness? But how can I let you feel bad? So, of course I want to make myself healthy and healthy!"
Chu Lihua is still in a good mood.
¡ª¡ª"When do you come to work?"
¡ª¡ª"It's hard to say, wait until you think about me and can't sleep."
Chu Lihua said with a smile.
Qing Yunfei hung up the phone with a "snap".
Hearing the "beep" sound from the receiver, Chu Lihua was in a good mood.
Qing Yunfei, the more you don't like to talk well, the more I will let you experience the other party's feelings of "not talking well".
However, I want to do the opposite. If you like to speak harsh words, then I will speak sweet words.
¡ª¡ª"Chuchu, who's calling? Could it be that you have a new situation without telling me? Isn't it kind? You didn't tell me."
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