¡ª¡ª"Sister, let's put it this way, while your child is still young, if you really can't live on, why don't you get a divorce! Instead of letting the child grow up and feel that parents sacrifice their own happiness for him, divorce may A better choice, children who live in lies may not necessarily be happy.
And divorce is also better for the husband, because it allows him to learn a lesson and know how much damage his previous behavior will cause.
At the same time, you can also get relief. Although there will be a painful time, compared with a long life, this pain is worth it.
This is the process of choosing the truth. If you are willing to think calmly like this, then you can be freed from the predicament and discover endless possibilities. "
Chu Lihua's words made Zhang Weier not come back to his senses for a long time.
¡ª¡ª"Lihua, what are you talking about? Divorce? Isn't it? My child is still so young, how can I divorce so irresponsibly? No one has ever advised me like this before."
¡ª¡ª"Then think about it, if you get a divorce, besides your children, do you have other things to consider? Although, I am not in favor of divorce.
But sister, ask yourself, you keep saying that it is for your children, how many days have you spent with your children since they were born? "
Chu Lihua's tone was full of helplessness. She used to listen to other people's stories, and she rarely offered to offer some suggestions. After all, it was their business. They were just talking to you. You just need to be a good listener. But this time she felt sorry for the two children.
Although, divorced families will cause indelible harm to them. However, it's better than the present situation. Their parents are far away in Beijing, but one of the two little guys is at grandma's house and the other is at grandma's house. In fact, their parents didn't care about the two children at all.
If Zhang Weier got divorced, he could focus on the children. Chu Lihua felt that it was worthwhile for her to be so impulsive today.
Everything in the world is our mirror. When you look at them, you also leave a mirror image in their mirror, so you can see yourself too.
The reverse is also the same, the moment you look at a thing, that thing also exists because of your attention.
Mom, is the first mirror in our life. In the earliest days of life, the mother looks at the baby, and the baby sees its own existence in this mirror.
If the mother's attention is always there, the baby will feel that he is always there. When paying attention, the mother and the baby resonate with acceptance and joy, and the baby feels that his existence is valuable. A good mother's mirror is never stingy to open to the baby.
Sometimes, the mother's mirror is always dark, and it cannot focus on the baby, so the baby feels that he does not exist.
If the mirror is only opened once in a while, the baby will develop a certain sense of self at this moment, but this sense of self is broken. This is why, while doing the exercise "Touching Your Inner Baby," someone will say that he does not see a whole baby.
This is what Chu Lihua herself saw from psychology books.
At that time, she was shocked.
She finally knew why she formed such a character. It turned out that the most fundamental reason was that she had never received her mother's attention since she was a child.
Chu Lihua's birth may have been popular at first, but as time went by, after Chu Lihua grew up, she could roughly understand her childhood situation from a few words from her mother.
She cried, and her mother thought she was troublesome.
She was afraid, but her mother still thought she was troublesome.
In the world when she was a child, there was nothing but being rejected¡ª¡ª
"But¡¡"
Zhang Weier really didn't say a complete sentence for a long time, because he really didn't know how to refute Chu Lihua.
¡ª¡ª"Sister, no one knows what is best for you except yourself.
In fact, the answer is in your heart, but because of fear, worry and so on, your thinking is disturbed by many factors.
If you are willing to try to choose one of the two options, or choose neither to calm down, you will be able to find peace, listen to your inner voice, and find the answer.
If you really want the truth, the truth will find itself.
Many times, the answer is in your heart, but you don't want to admit it. "
Chu Lihua knew that Zhang Weier had her own thoughts in the silence, just because??That thought ran counter to the words she said, so she couldn't speak in the end. Saying this is purely to make Zhang Weier more aware of his true inner thoughts.
After saying this, Chu Lihua felt that it was necessary for her to go out to take a breath.
Unexpectedly, when Chu Lihua just passed the front desk, she ran into the man she bumped into just now.
He suddenly walked up to Chu Lihua, raised his hand with a smile, and asked Chu Lihua, "How much is this?"
Of course Chu Lihua didn't want to answer his boring questions
But what I didn't expect was that from then on, Chu Lihua often met that man, and he always acted the same way and said the same words.
Raising her hand, she asked Chu Lihua, "How much is this?"
There are always so many boring people, Chu Lihua didn't take it to heart.
The annual holiday is coming soon.
Everyone went home.
Chu Lihua didn't. She told her new colleague that she didn't buy a train ticket. In fact, he knew that she didn't buy a train ticket at all.
Both Yu Xiaqiu and Tang Xue invited her to celebrate the New Year with them, but Chu Lihua lied and refused.
? Chu Lihua also went to the supermarket to buy new year's goods in a serious manner. It's okay to celebrate the new year alone, as long as she doesn't care about it.
On the evening of the New Year's Eve, Chu Lihua made herself big braised chicken drumsticks with a rice cooker, oil and various seasonings.
The small pot she usually uses to cook hot pot is used to cook dumplings.
Although, Chu Lihua is a southerner, and she doesn't have the custom of eating dumplings during Chinese New Year. But she is now in the north after all, and to be honest, she is actually very happy to eat dumplings.
Of course, the phone call from home also came after dinner.
Without exception, it is the mother.
Of course it was impossible for Chu Lihua to let her mother know her current situation.
She laughed and told her mother that she was celebrating the New Year at a colleague's house.
According to their custom, they eat dumplings during the Chinese New Year.
As usual, my mother repeated the same long-winded routine four or five times.
Chu Lihua had no choice but to throw the phone aside from a distance, and said "um" twice from time to time.
Perhaps, her mother also noticed her impatience and finally hung up the phone.
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