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——"Look at me, many of my friends around me are married, and even divorced. But what about me? Now I can still live as I want like a young man. I don't care about the opinions of people around me, and I don't deliberately pursue it. What. When love comes, I will cherish it. If it doesn't come, I'm not in a hurry. "
Listening to these free and easy words, Chu Lihua couldn't help being envious.
——"How much have you experienced before you can be so optimistic?"
Chu Lihua was envious and curious.
——"Some things don't have to be experienced personally. As the saying goes, those who are in charge are confused, but bystanders are clear. If you see too much, you will see clearly.
I heard an old saying before, it is called "Love is deep and lifeless".
It means that couples who are too deeply in love often cannot be in love for too long.
Of course, this sentence cannot summarize all the laws of marriage, but in one case, it is applicable.
That is two people in a husband and wife, one loves the other so deeply that he has a strong desire to control, and can't bear the other party enjoying fun that has nothing to do with him.
Marriage will never mature if it cannot reach the state of "playing with each other".
Where I worked before, there was a female colleague who solemnly recorded a video every time she worked overtime.
Because her boyfriend wants to check the post, he must watch the video to be sure that she is really working overtime and not with others.
In this regard, her boyfriend justified: "I did this because I love you so much and care about you too much! There are so many bad people out there, and you are so innocent, how can I rest assured?"
? At the beginning, although the female colleague felt uncomfortable, she still chose to be considerate: "He is also doing it for my own good."
But as time went by, she could no longer bear it, let alone imagine what would happen if she married such a person.
When breaking up, she told the boy: "You know, a comfortable relationship should be effortless. You don't need to accommodate me, and I don't need to accommodate you. But now, I accommodate you too much."
To sum it up in one sentence, it is: "I'm tired."
A relationship that is too tense will sooner or later be exhausted.
On the contrary, the clouds are calm and the wind is light, and it is easier to flow slowly.
I participated in a very weird celebration, celebrating a girlfriend who quit.
Her job-hopping was neither promoted nor raised, but she was very happy—because she finally stopped working in the same company as her husband.
She said: "Can you imagine? At the company during the day, we don't look up and look down. When we go home at night, we still have to face a face. I really want to collapse!"
Since the job-hopping, their relationship really warmed up rapidly.
?Because they are busy with their own things, and play their own things, they miss each other, have a sense of mystery, have expectations, and have surprises, and even find a little feeling that a little farewell is better than a newlywed.
Zhou Guoping once said: "The best gift that people who love each other can give each other is freedom."
"The love between two free people has the necessary tension. This love is firm, but not tight; lingering, but not sticky. Love without gaps is terrible. Love loses room to breathe freely. To suffocate."
Couples who can persist in their marriage must take their relationship lightly.
No more post checks, no more questioning, as long as people can come back after being released, then you can sit back and relax.
A good marriage needs stocking.
This is not laxity, nor does it not care. It is the trust and wisdom that grow out of long-term relationship.
It's yours, it's yours after all, it's not yours, no matter how tightly you hold onto it, it's useless.
Why don't you let him go. "
Such a profound sentence made Chu Lihua suddenly think of Lin Lei's daughter-in-law that Yu Xiaqiu said, that woman really needs to check the post by video all the time to be at ease.
In the past, Chu Lihua thought that such a result occurred because Lin Lei's style was really not good enough to make people worry, but now it seems that the cause and effect have been reversed.
Perhaps, Lin Lei's words are right, it is precisely because of the other party's shackles that there is no freedom at all that Lin Lei is now desperately resisting.
Chu Lihua felt that Lin Lei might be understandable.
However, this does not mean that his current approach is worthy of approval.
——"I think, maybe, I understand! Love hasn't come yet, the situation in the world suddenly changed, and all people with love and righteousness will come back. Love will always come, and love is destined to be reborn in the next life. I have waited too long, Cry helplessly."
Chu Lihua's mind is not?Unconsciously, such a passage appeared.
The night in Kunming was very cold, so Chu Lihua and the others went back to the youth hostel after the temperature dropped.
In this season, there are still many travelers in Kunming. Therefore, when they returned, the six-person room was already full.
Except that there are two people who come together and are relatively quiet. The remaining four sat on the lower bunk and chatted all night.
Some talked about what they saw, heard, thought, and felt along the way. Some also talked about the stories that happened around them, which brought enlightenment to themselves.
Of course, some people talk about what happened to them, and the growth they have brought to themselves after experiencing it.
The laughter and laughter seemed to have never stopped. It wasn't until everyone felt that the surroundings suddenly became quiet, and it was not good to disturb other people in the room with such noise, that they all stopped tacitly.
——"Let's go to Dianchi Lake to feed the seagulls tomorrow, and I'll tell you a story."
said a sweet little girl.
By the way, they got together just now, for the sake of everyone's memory, the four of them gave themselves a special code name.
This temporary four-person fruit salad group is basically a group trip in Kunming these days.
Chu Lihua is grapefruit, the one who went out together before was durian, sweet and cute is cherry, and the other fat girl is watermelon.
——"Little Cherry, are you also itchy and want to share it! Tonight is the one that you say the least about yourself."
Watermelon joked.
——"No, I have always said a lot, mainly from my own personal experience. It is far less interesting than what happened around me."
Cherry giggled.
——"Keep your voice down, we'll continue going out tomorrow, as if they were asleep."
Durian reminded them softly.
All of a sudden, only everyone in the room started to pick up the toiletries lightly, and went out to the public bathroom to wash up.
After they came back, they all looked at each other lightly, saying good night to each other and going to sleep.
That night, Chu Lihua slept very soundly.
The next day, several people didn't get up early.
By the time they got up and called each other, the other two girls had already left the house early.
——"Yuzi, aren't you from Yunnan? What should we have for breakfast? Can you recommend it?"
——"To be honest, our Yunnan people have rice noodles, bait, and shredded bait for breakfast. You may not be used to it." (Remember the website website: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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