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Chapter 408 Separation is Salvation

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    Chu Lihua remembered when she was a child, because she was always beaten and scolded, since she was a child

    I don¡¯t dare to say that it causes all kinds of people, some things, in fact, I put them in a corner of my heart, and I can¡¯t remember them easily, but occasionally I will escape from breaking through the blockade and disturb them.  Probably so.

    ¡ª¡ª"Then you contacted your elder sister to come to Beijing after you left?"

    Chu Lihua felt that this was not the time for her to be sad.  After all, what if it's Yu Xiaqiu's own sister?  People have said a lot to you, Barabara, and you have to show your concern.

    ¡ª¡ª"No, I went to Shangri-La alone, which is the most beautiful place closest to the horizon. I stayed there for more than half a year, and after my mind gradually calmed down, I thought about saying goodbye to my past self. Manage my own well  future."

    ¡ª¡ª"Then this one, is it good for you?"

    After all, Chu Lihua couldn't help but ask.

    ¡ª¡ª"Okay, that's really good, but I don't have the same feeling as He Yi before. This kind of happiness is what I think I can deserve, and the past is too unreal."

    Tang Tingting's words made Chu Lihua feel so sad.

    Her birth was not her fault, nor was her childhood experience, why, she spent the rest of her life healing her childhood tragedy.

    If she hadn't had that kind of childhood, she could have lived happily with He Yi with peace of mind.

    Coco, what a beautiful name.

    It's a pity that Tang Keke himself became Yu Xiaqiu.

    And Tang Tingting, who borrowed the name of Tang Keke, also

    A few times, a love will automatically save a person, which is the deep reason why love is regarded as great.  But if we really want to be saved, we have to work on it ourselves.

    Rong Weiling said: "Good parents are a gift from God, which can give us a good psychological foundation. However, the reason why life is valuable is that we can make choices. And falling in love is an opportunity we can choose. If  We don¡¯t give ourselves to the subconscious mind to direct, and try to save ourselves and our lovers, then every time we fall in love can be a good healing opportunity.¡±

    To achieve this, in addition to learning unconditional love, you must also learn separation.

    Falling in love is the last step in separation from the family.  Moreover, because it is a profound copy of the parent-child relationship, it is especially difficult to "separate" the love relationship. The pain caused by the breakup of a lover is no less than the separation of our parents and us in childhood.

    Breakups are bound to be painful at first because we have many painful memories of being apart.  When we were young, our mother or father would often leave us cruelly. Some of them were reasonable, such as work and study;  Reasonable or irrational, we all get hurt because as babies we don't understand it in the first place.

    The separation of love is equally lethal.  Although we now know what is reasonable and unreasonable, because love is first of all a copy of the parent-child relationship, we don¡¯t care about rationality and unreasonable emotionally just like childhood. We only see one point: "He doesn't want me anymore, like Dad  same" or "she doesn't want me anymore, just like my mother".

    And Tang Tingting is the kind that neither parents love.

    Thinking about it, Chu Lihua felt that the Tang family's parents might not treat their daughters very well.  Or the boss Tang Peipei (Tang Xue) is an exception.  After all, now, she is raising her younger brother Tang Guangzong.

    In childhood, we yearn for stability and for our parents to be by our side all the time.  Now, we also long for stability and long for our lover to be by our side all the time.  However, if our parents are not separated from us, then we cannot grow up.  Neither can we continue to grow if our lovers are not separated from us.  It is not the natural and healthy state of life that two people are always stuck together.

    It is very difficult to build a good relationship because you can never completely control another person.

    Since intimacy is so difficult to establish, some people, especially men, simply give up intimacy and only immerse themselves in a special field, and eventually become masters in this field, such as Newton, Kant, and Van Gogh.

    Kant seemed to enjoy his loneliness, but for Van Gogh, loneliness was a terrible thing. He longed to have an intimate relationship with the opposite sex all his life, but he never learned how to establish it.

    "Relationships are hard because the other person can't be controlled; developing theories is easy because it's all about you. You know, when you give, you get results. You can be confident about the future."predictable, but the relationship is unpredictable.  "Rong Weiling said.

    Perhaps, He Yi's appearance was to save Tang Tingting.  Now, her job is done.

    Falling in love is not only a treatment, but also a trial.  We are trying to find someone who matches our ideal parent image, and we are also trying to find out whether it is really suitable for our lover.  Indiscriminately insisting on sticking together will only increase the pain of life and will only make us repeat our childhood mistakes.

    For many people, a past life has been full of mistakes, and being in love is an opportunity to make amends.  There used to be a father who didn¡¯t love me, so, okay, I must find a man who is similar to my father and make him fall in love with me; there used to be a mother who loved me, then, okay, I must find a man who is similar to my father and make him fall in love with me;  A woman like my mother, she will love me well We all have a dream buried in our hearts: to repeat the happiness of childhood and correct the misfortune of childhood.  But the problem is that no matter what kind of ideal parent we choose, it is only our projection.  Perhaps, the other party really fits his ideal image of parents.  However, the other party has had a completely different life experience, and he also has his own ideal parent image, but you may not meet it.

    Chu Lihua didn't remember where she saw this passage, but she remembered that after she had failed in love one after another, she felt a lot more relaxed after seeing this passage.

    So what did Yu Xiaqiu mean by introducing Tang Tingting to herself?

    Why did Tang Tingting trust herself so much, when she came up, she dumped out all the previous things in one go.

    Chu Lihua suddenly felt that she had picked up a hot potato, and she couldn't throw it away, and couldn't hold it.

    ¡ª¡ª"He Yi may be your ideal father, but later you find that the gap between your ideal father and your real father is too great, and you worry that this is just a dream. When you wake up from the dream, everything will come to naught. In the end, you  Force yourself to leave the dream, so that He Yi will be beautiful. Don¡¯t be subverted by the image of your real father.¡± (Remember the website URL: www.hlnovel.com
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