Yesterday I posted a poem "Grateful to My Children", which received a lot of response. I happened to meet one of my fans on my way out for errands, and she talked about her impressions after reading it.
When it comes to managing children, everyone has their own tricks.
I don't agree with cultivating children in a fixed format according to the wishes of parents. Some parents have to let their children fulfill their unrealized ideals for them. Or force children to read and study, or wishful thinking to let children learn a certain skill. The child's hobbies were strangled to death, the child's specialty was not discovered, and a great genius scientist, inventor, etc. was cruelly destroyed.
I advocate going with the flow, discovering the child's interests and strengths, guiding him, helping him, and providing him with the necessary tools and a feasible platform. Let him develop.
My fans looked at me puzzled: "You are very spoiled with children."
"No. But our relationship is very easygoing. When they were young, I was like friends with them. Now that they are older, sometimes they are like my elders. Most of the time, I listen to them."
"Do you hit children?"
"Hit. Hit hard!"
"Are you willing to?"
"It has nothing to do with being willing. Children must be in awe. There are no rules."
I told her that although I am a university teacher, I am also a parent. When primary and secondary schools hold parent-teacher meetings, I will discuss the situation of the children with the teachers in charge of the primary and secondary schools.
The conclusion is:
Children who have been beaten are quick-witted, have strong observation skills, and listen to all directions, and have a strong sense of defense and self-protection. In addition, he is good at sophistry and eloquence.
Children who have never been beaten are dull, introverted, willful, etc.
"Then do you scold the child?" she asked suddenly.
"This is not allowed. Don't insult children, let alone belittle them. The hurt of self-esteem is irreparable. A good boy is boasting. If you always say that he is not good, he will think that he is really not good, so he gives up. effort."
Yes, my daughter has been the class monitor, party secretary, and student union cadre from elementary school to university. Very eloquent! Most people can't say enough about her. My son is afraid of his sister.
However, my son is particularly eloquent. His junior high school Chinese teacher said: Your son always speaks fallacies, and his words are too choking. When I went to university and became a student union cadre, I became more eloquent.
Having said that, it is okay to hit a child, but not always, and afterward, you must explain to him why you hit him. Otherwise, the child will be beaten in vain. Don't fight and reason. He was hating you then! Can't hear anything.
"Haha! So there are so many things to say about beating children!" She laughed.